Sunday, October 07, 2007

True Wife Confession 213 Regulate

Confession #2121

Do you want to know why we drifted apart? It's because of your stupid attitude. It's time you realize that we are different. I cant be as perfect and organized as you are. Hell why should I? I'm spontaneous and adventurous. I love to laugh and have fun. You are so fucking boring I could scream. Your idea of fun and spending time together is watching a movie. I love movies but not that crap you love to watch. We have absolutely nothing in common no wonder we disagree on so much. You say that life is black or white, I think its not always black or white it's sometimes grey. I hate the way you are always so perfect and expect me to be perfect also. I hate how you constantly criticize me about everything. Dont you know by doing this you make me resent you more. I wish you would stop treating me like your child and more like an adult person.



Confession #2122

I have been on Prozac for one week. My husband doesn't know. I think he is part of the reason I have turned to medication...

Confession #2123

I know you are sick with a cold. And I feel sorry for you. But take some damn medication!! Your moaning and groaning about how sick you are and then your refusal to take any medicine to help you feel more comfortable? Drives me CRAZY. Just take some tylenol cold for gods sake, like every other person who has a cold!

Confession #2124

I'm sorry I couldn't hear you knocking at the front door. The TV was on, I was running water while washing dishes in the kitchen and talking to our daughter. You acted like I committed the ultimate sin or something, just because you had to use the back door. "Why do you have the fucking front door locked up anyway?", you yelled. Because we live in a freaking shitty neighborhood, that's why. And I never know if you are outside, inside, just left in the car....I'm paranoid about someone coming in our house when you aren't there. I'm sorry I'm not superwoman, psychic, June Cleaver, and Betty Crocker. I do the best I can, but you don't seem to realize that. Sometimes I just wish that you could be me for a day, and realize how hard I try to please everyone, to be a good wife and mother, to be a good employee, and how stressed out and tired I am. I try to give you that courtesy - to not judge you or hold grudges against you because I don't know what it is like to be you.


Confession #2125

Dear Husband,

I'm s
orry for cheating on you and getting pregnant. I'm sorry for you being so embarrassed that you haven't talked to your family since you found out. My infidelity wasn't caused by something missing in our relationship. We have a good marriage.

Sadly, the only thing I have to offer you or anyone else is sex and what results from it. I'm emotionally hollow. I have two settings - addiction and indifference - either acute or chronic. Nothing will fix this, not therapy or time. I have left the decision of reconciling or not, up to you for those reasons. I could go either way so whatever you choose, I will accept.

This will not be the end of my infidelity, it will happen again with someone else at some other random time, so don't be in denial of that. You can justify my behavior to yourself or others as a symptom of my bipolar disorder, if that is what you want to do.

If you decide to reconcile, I will be supportive of you in everything you do and provide a good homelife. If you want more children, I will have them. Just please, don't expect more than that.

Sincerely,

Your Wife


Confession #2126

When you told me that my daughter manipulated me into allowing her to slide by things I always resented knowing you were really right and I was too stubborn and prideful to admit it. I fought you and became defensive and refused to allow you to complete sentences so it became a fight. It was the only thing we ever fought about. Now she is out of high school, she has nothing to show for any of the time that's passed and has barely gotten into the most accessible colleges, yet she's chosen not to go and is instead working at a fast food joint making minimum wage.

You've been proven right over and over again, but you've never gloated or said I told you so. I know as I think back that you always focused on each issue; you had a clear picture of what the best outcome was and what she needed to do differently to get there, and I never listened. Each time I made it easy for her to fail, to not even try while at the same time fighting with her and allowing her to control me. Every time she demonstrated an interest in something you were always the first to find all the ways you could that would encourage her and support her, from buying any piece of equipment needed to just being willing to talk to her about it and encourage her to do her best. She always gave up, she'd keep it from you and I'd let it go.

You were right, I never listened and now she has burned so many bridges, yet you still say to keep trying and that kids come of age at all sorts of ages. After all the fighting and resisting and lack of acknowledgment that you were right about not always making it easy for her to fail, you amazingly bare no resentment toward me. You still look for every opportunity for her to be successful and do everything in your power to get her there. How do you do that? How do you stay the course? Your own kids all excel, they are all wonderful, engaging, functional citizens; you knew what you were doing and I allowed my own selfish pride to prevent you influencing my daughter. My god, I am a fool!

I am to weak and prideful to tell you this, but I promise to show you how much I love you for this and the so many unselfish things you are. This month is our 10th anniversary and I love you now more than I even knew was possible when we first married. That I can tell you, that I will make sure you know. I don't know why I can't stand my ground with her, and I am heartbroken over the path she is headed down. I have been my own worst enemy, and worse yet, I've allowed it to hurt her as well.

Confession #2127

It hurts me, deep in my soul, that you have asked and expected me to change pieces of me but you will not reciprocate. I know you will never change your unromantic ways (how I wish you were excited to see me when I come home or planned surprises for me) but when you are late to everything, and I mean everything, it is disrespectful. You tell me to take it easy or not get so uptight but it is rude to show up a half hour or hour late to a couples night or to my parents house. The people in my life that love me have accepted this about you but it doesn't make it right. You could change this if you wanted to but I just don't feel you want to.

We have been together 8 years. LONG time. And in that long time, throughout all of our ups and downs, it is always me that adjusts to make you happy. I'm a passive person by nature but I feel taken advantage of. When I voice my complaints, you turn it around and get angry at me. You excuse your complaints about me as you wanting to help me be a better person...but if that's the case, why can't I "help" you? I truly believe you think you are perfect and you're not. And I love you 140% anyway. I don't care that you leave your snot rags on your nightstand for days or that you drool over women right in front of me. But I do take issue with you not defending me to your family, calling me stupid and telling me how to spend my free time. Why are you so controlling?

And your ultimate form of control over me is marriage. You haven't asked me to marry you and I am at the point where I think you don't want to marry me. You say you do, you tell me you can't wait to spend the rest of your life with me...but you don't go beyond that. At first it was my weight. You said you can't spend the rest of your life with someone who can't do the active things you want to always do. So I worked on that and it's gotten better. Then it was my financial issues...even though you could lighten my burden by not insisting I pay half of just about everything we do together. And now you say it's a trust issue. That I'm not 100% honest and open with you about my food issues and what else am I hiding? I'm starting to think these are excuses. I'm starting to think that if you really wanted to marry me, you would ask. I wish I could believe you are going to surprise me like you say you will...but everytime you plop down $200 for a concert I'd rather not go to, I know that that money could have been saved to make me your wife and you aren't doing it.

Why can't you be happy with me?

Confession #2128

D(ick)H(ead), I've just about had it with you.

The other week, you complained that I was becoming "distant" and "withdrawn" and that you felt that I was very unhappy. You didn't seem able to connect it with the fact that in the last few months you seem to think it's perfectly OK to treat me rudely and disrespectfully, and having tantrums over unbelievably minor shit that would make a 5 year old proud.

If you treated anyone else like that, you would get cut off for life, but somehow you seem to think that since I live in this house it's OK and after you get over it I should just forget about it and play happy families. Not fucking likely. Every time you act like a disrespectful ass to me, I care a little bit less about you. Push me far enough, to the point where I don't care any more at all, and I will walk and be glad to do it.

I understand that you are under a huge amount of stress with your family shit and your mother's illness. However, I don't deserve to have you treat me like this, and I will not put up with it.

You bitch at me for not wanting kids, yet you can't seem to notice when clothes need to get washed, the dishwasher needs to get loaded, or things need to be picked up. And somehow it's my fault if the laundry fairy or the housework fairy doesn't wash the clothes or do something when you arbitrarily decide it should happen. Get over yourself asshole. You live here, you contribute to the mess, and you're too good to dirty your hands cleaning it? Fuck you.

Want kids? Get over it, asshole. You're the one who wants them, not me. Until you prove to me that you're able to pick up your own fucking slack, I'm going to keep right on popping those magic birth control pills. I'm seriously considering getting an IUD as well, so I can say that I'm "off the pill" when you start nagging me about "trying". If I found out that I were pregnant today, I would abort. That's how much I hate the idea of being stuck with all the fucking childcare, and the idea of being tied to you by a child if you keep acting like this. Why do you think I'd want to have a kid with somebody who can't treat me civilly?

The other night was a perfect example of everything I'm starting to hate about you. I said that my parents had suggested we spend xmas with them at my grandmother's. She's 90 years old, has just been widowed, and is too ill to travel. Every other year, we host dinner and your fucking pigs of relatives make asses of themselves. For one year, I suggested we do something different and go over on xmas day. Your bitch of a mother was even invited, so she wouldn't be alone. We've done this ONCE before in the 13 years we've been together. I understand it's a long drive, and if you had calmly said you didn't want to do it and you'd rather go later that week instead, that would have been perfectly acceptable. Instead, you had a huge drama queen hysterical tantrum complete with screaming and yelling. When I lost my temper because OF THE WAY YOU TREATED ME, you had more hysterics about how xmas was so important to you and how could I suggest this, all the while weaseling out of apologizing for your completely. Well, asshole, you'll get what you want...but I am not lifting a finger this year to plan dinner. You can deal with it all, and I don't want to know. I'm very tempted to just go to my GM's instead and leave you to deal with your relatives' crap.

I'm also getting really sick of sex once a week. You bitch that you're too tired, but you're not too tired to play with the fucking computer for hours. And I can't remember the last time you actually tried anything adventurous or interesting. Most guys would be thrilled to have a wife who loves sex like I do and could happily do multiple times a day plus some moderate kink. I'm 30 years old, fit and sexy...why the hell should I have to feel like I need to initiate every time? Try showing some interest and using your imagination for once.

Fuck you, you selfish piece of shit. If you knew how much I was starting to fantasize about leaving for good, you might not be so quick to be such an asshole.

Confession #2129

To my mother-in-law who loves to milk sympathy and is so self-righteous
and pious to all:
You know I am so disappointed in you. I thought you were such a caring
person, but you’re too selfish to be. You wouldn’t even let us borrow a
vehicle and you know what a hard time we’re having financially and I
just hope that your vehicles keep you warm when you’re sitting out there
by yourself. I sure as won’t be bending over backward to do anything
for you anymore. You always brag about tithing, but you can tithe until
the cows come home. But if you’re selfish and stingy (and that you are),
God will take notice of it. You were so particular with that stupid
white car and wouldn’t let anyone drive it and pitched a fit when Xxxx
and I borrowed your ugly old Pontiac to use to drive when my Daddy was
dying. Well, now you got a taste of what my family went through. I
think God took your husband as a way to show you that that stupid white
car wasn’t as important as say, Xxxxx! I know never to depend on you for
anything, that’s for sure. It’s a wonder you ever give anything away as
selfish as you are. You have money in the bank and are so selfish with
it. I hope those Florida people sue your ass off and take everything
you own and I think it’s funny that you’re too stupid to know any
better. Don’t ever ask for another favor, EVER! By the way, you waddle
like a duck when you walk and are built like one to boot! HA! I’m
tired of your son being so defensive over you. I don’t know why. You
almost killed him when he was little. I think that’s why he beats me- I
wish he’d come back and beat the shit out of you!


Confession #2130

Ya know I felt wretched for what I had done to you. I didn't want to hurt you, but today you had the unmitigated gall to force me to tell you one of my secrets. DO YOU NOT GET IT?! Everyone has them! Including you! and Just because It's "Not fair to make you tell a secret" doesn't make it right that you forced me.

You ended up doing the one thing..the one thing you said you wouldn't do, which is force me to do anything. I'm almost 20 years old! Just because you are 26 doesn't mean you have anymore wisdom than me. I probably have more life experience than you, I have loved more than one man.

The worst part is is that I still bend to you..6 years and I'm still cowering and saying "Yes, I'm bad and blah blah." I shouldn't HAVE to tell you anything, not to mention the first secret is the one you hated most.

I would be with him if I could. I would run away and marry him and in love. Because I love him, as much as I did when I was fully in love with you. And HE treats me well, holy crap go figure! But he is my half-brother and I can't do anything to change that, I can't bear his children and it kills me sometimes.

You have to get over it, I wouldn't be fighting to get back together with you if I planned on spending my life with him. You are being vile and worse than I ever was. I may have slept with him but I didn't humiliate you. I never changed...I think you may have..and it scares me..

62 comments:

Anonymous said...

2128:

Screw him, GO TO GRANDMA'S!!! With her age and the fact that she was recently widowed, this may be her last Christmas.

Think about it. So he has a fit that may very well end your marriage. If you don't go spend the holidays with your GM because of him, and she doesn't make it to the next one, you will resent him enough to the point that your marriage WILL fail. I wouldn't EVER let a man keep me from family that needs me. Good luck.

Anonymous said...

2121:

I could have written this. Your last line has me in tears because for 9 years, that was my marriage, my husband.

I loved him with all I had but it was never enough, I was always the lesser and his child somehow even though I am a year older and a mother a two before I met him. He is not a bad person, he is a good man, but his own insecurities spilled out in so many painful ways, hurtful to me.

I divorced this year. I am now dating someone who sees me as a woman, with the flaws and history and good and fun and wonderful all together, just as I am.

Anonymous said...

2126: I'm kinda in the same boat with you, may I ask how old your daughter is...I'm thinking 18, like mine? My DH became her stepdad when she was 10. So we had loooong established a mommy/daughter team. He gives me advice or lets me know when she's playing me (for money for gas, fastfood, clothes, etc., never for anything bad; I'm lucky, she doesn't smoke, drink or do drugs and doesn't hang out with those who do) but I usually belive my daughter before my DDH. It's been getting a lot better, but she's still a kid and we still need to regognize that. From 12 to 17.5 was the worst for me. Cringe! So glad that's over... now on to the next set of problems teenagers throw at us! Good luck to you and I'm happy to answer any ? re: raising a teen age girl alone.

Anonymous said...

2121 & 11:34: I too could have written that myself!! I also divorced last year and am with someone who is just as adventurous as I am. It's mind blowing.
I truly loved my ex husband so much it drained me to the point of exhaustion and depression. N

Now I have so much life back along with tons of get up and go!!

Anonymous said...

2130: Yeah, I can understand why your (ex?) boyfriend is freaking out. That's incest. You're in love with a closely-related blood relative. Get thee into therapy.

cas said...

2128 - Go see your grandma. I know from personal experience that you WILL regret it if you don't. It may or may not be her last Xmas, but I wouldn't miss being with her. Your husband doesn't even sound worth it.

Anonymous said...

11:34, this sentence is confusing:

"I am a year older and a mother a two before I met him."

You had a child before you met him?

Anonymous said...

2125: "I have two settings - addiction and indifference - either acute or chronic. Nothing will fix this, not therapy or time."

Utter self-indulgent B.S. And now that you've bred, you're duty-bound to get your ass professional help and stop acting out like a petulant, spoiled teenager.

Anonymous said...

11:34 here.

Sorry to confuse you, 3:09, with my shoddy sentence.

I am a year older than my ex husband. And I had two children from a prior marriage.

I married very young, twice. Not surprisingly, I didn't make the best choices for me.

#1 and I found ourselves pregnant and scared, married by pressure. We knew it wouldn't work, but we tried so hard for our two children.

#2 felt safe and secure. What felt like comfort with him turned into everything 2121 said very quickly. I tried with him for 9 years.

Anonymous said...

2127:

If he wants you to be more open and honest, then show him your post. It will hopefully open that line of communication up for the both of you and maybe he'll finally be honest with himself and you about what he really wants.

Maybe he's simply scared of marriage and the "forever" part of it. Believe it or not, that has almost nothing to do with you or his feelings for you, but more to do about his own fears in life and not wanting to screw up.

I think at a certain point, especially if marriage is something that both parties claim to want, talking about it is the first step in having both parties face fears and answer questions.

No girl wants to be the one to be waiting for a proposal, and no guy wants to feel the pressure to propose - hopefully you guys sitting down and discussing what you want, and don't want - will make you guys both feel better in the end.

Good luck to you! Please let us know if anything comes to light.

Anonymous said...

2130.......GROSS!

Maria said...

2125 & 2130

The troglydytes are back!!

Anonymous said...

You had sex with your half-brother?

Anonymous said...

Dear 2130,

For the love of Christ, please outgrow the Jerry Springer drama queen crap before you reproduce.

If you already have reproduced, please give the kids to a family of friendly otters to raise so they'll have a chance at sane, productive lives.

Thank you,
The rest of the planet

Anonymous said...

2130 sounds every bit her age. She'll learn alot in the next ten years and will be a completly different woman quite opposite of the adolesence she is now. I suggest that she not get re-involved w/ her half brother. Unless the live in different countries and you never plan to have children. Otherwise Thanksgiving or Hanukah will be reallllllly uncomfortable. You'll be okay, kid, get a different boyfriend.

Anonymous said...

GROSS!

Anonymous said...

While everyone else thinks your gross, surprise surprise there, I can understand where you are coming from. I have a cousin, my moms sisters son, that is so gorgeous I would totally sleep with him if we weren't related.

Anonymous said...

9:11 AM - At least you knew better NOT to. *If we weren't related* is the key statement here.

Anonymous said...

You would "totally sleep" with your cousin? I'm sorry that's just as "GROSS." Just the thought......EWWWWWWWWWWWWW!

Anonymous said...

damn right I would sleep with my cousin, going off of looks and personality he has it all for any woman who is lucky enough to be with him. I myself have that same person at home with me, hes just not related by blood.

interfamily relationships are not something new people, its just not talked about. Simply because of the stigma around it. That being said, if there was no stigma attached to it socially.....I would NOT sleep with my cousin, because morally I find it disturbing. That doesn't mean I can't find him attractive.

Anonymous said...

HOLY CRAP!!! I know that I am not supose to leave mean comments but are you kidding me #2130. You are seriously sick and need to seek professional help. YOU ARE SLEEPING WITH YOUR BROTHER!!! YOU SHARE THE SAME BLOOD!!! SICK, SICK, SICK!!!

Anonymous said...

EWWWWWWWWWWW! No matter what bit of blubbering b.s. you spout, that's disturbing. EWWWWWWWWWWWWW! Would you sleep with your dad and your uncle too if they were good looking. EWWWWWWWWWWW! Get some help......FAST!

Anonymous said...

Yes, I have to totally agree with the consensus........totally disgusting. Even the thought(of sleeping with any family member). I think I'm gonna spew.

Anonymous said...

OH. MY. WORD!

Anonymous said...

Oh grow up. She said HALF brother. That's totally different from sleeping with her father. It happened a lot in poor, under-developed countries and it probably still does. And what about the royals? LOTS of it going on there! As long as no children are produced I don't think it's THAT bad.

Anonymous said...

That's because you are sick too!

SaKi said...

What a bunch of judgmental bitches.

Anonymous said...

I know, Saki. I don't get it sometimes. 6;37, I'm not sick, just not a close-minded, black and white type of person. You may not agree, but it doesn't mean you're right and I'm wrong. Just different. Can't you get that?

Anonymous said...

Whatever! Freaks! You all may be able to justify wiping your piss on somebody's clothes but there is no justification for this. It is just wrong.

SaKi said...

What the hell do you women care for anyway? Is it YOUR brother or half brother or whatever?

If not, shut the hell up. What are you ladies....5 years old? "EWWWWWWWWWWWW" and "OMG THAT'S SOOOO GROSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS".

Yeah, it may be gross, but she wrote it to CONFESS...and here's the part that you judgmental bitches aren't getting....

Who really gives a fuck what you think? LOL

Anonymous said...

It's not only "EWWWWWW" and "GROSS", but it's unnatural. Super creepy if she was raised in the same house with him. And Saki, blow it out your ass hon! Save your anger for the people in your life who will give a shit. You sound just as judgemental as all the rest.

Anonymous said...

I think it's called incest people.

SaKi said...

11:45 -

Anger? Not at all. I think it's sad that a bunch of women act like they are back in highschool over a confession on a website.

And I know when you say..."as all the rest" you are including yourself.

Hypocrites.lol

Anonymous said...

Yes, INCEST would be the word.

Anonymous said...

Incest only affects resulting children if the in family breeding has taken place for generations. Odds are that if a baby actually resulted from an incestuous relationship that he or she would be perfectly normal.

I also think that whatever happened happened between two consenting, yep theres that pesky word, CONSENTING, adults. Which pretty much means that all is good in that department.

I agree with saki all the way, the women on here are nothing more then a bunch of judgmental old biddies who spend more time picking lint out of everyone elses belly button but ignoring the massive birds nest in their own.

Anonymous said...

11:55- Very well put. Who should care what consenting adults do? As long as it doesn't affect anyone adversly, it's NO ONES business.

Anonymous said...

Consenting or not, it's incest. And I have to say, I have never fantasized about fucking any of my male relatives. Period. So, Saki, what you are saying is that if your son and daughter want to start fucking you wouldn't have a problem with it? AS CONSENTING ADULTS OF COURSE, YAH RIGHT! Because you all are defending this it must be okay in your own house too. Right? Whatever! Hypocrits! LOLOLOLOLOL!

Anonymous said...

Has everyone stopped bashing 2130?
Lets move on to 2129..
What if yu didn't have a Mother-in-law? Would that mean that you would have to go out and do something for yourself. What about all the single parents in the world that rise a bus or catch a cab. You sound like a spolied brat.
Where is YOUR Momma?
Don't make all of us women that are independent look bad. Why not try doing something for yourself. Name calling makes you look like a complete idiot,which you seem to be extremly needy.

Anonymous said...

Sorry-1:51 typing really fast:(
Ride a bus
I needed alot of ????
and what if YOU... don't come after me grammer person.

Anonymous said...

I'm just wondering where the heck 'D' is for this one- maybe he's the half brother?????

Anonymous said...

2127: You have been together 8 years and you say "I am at the point where I think [he doesn't] want to marry me"? Think about this for a minute. The guy is late, critical, treats you like crap, has excuses upon excuses for not respecting your wishes and knows how to masterfully manipulate your self-induced guilt trip (yes, self induced) whenever you fail to comply with what he wants or expects.

It sounds like you really love the guy, but honey, this guy is only using you because you are always available to be used, and continue to put up with his crap and go back for more punishment. Stop giving him control of your self-worth and happiness. I don't judge you, but I've been there, and the solution is to simply stop being taken advantage of.

Stop pleasing him by not conforming to the little things / behaviors that he expects. Define your own self worth and understand that this guy WILL NEVER BE completely happy with you. You'll see him fade in proportion to the control you begin to exert over your own happiness, and by not relying on him for your opinions of yourself and your plans for life. I say take the difficult road and get this guy out of your life and first find yourself, then look for the decent guy that will respect you and treat you accordingly. Wishing you luck.

Cori said...

2130:

First of all, before I even read the disturbing half brother part, the reference to "6 years" made me stop... does that mean, being nearly 20 years old, that you were 13 when you first got together with this then 20 year old man? Problem NUMBER ONE - on his part. That is not only immoral and disturbing, it is illegal.

On to the NEXT illegal topic at hand... incest. REALLY? I won't bash you, but I definitely think you need therapy... because the issue at hand here is NOT with your current (ex?) boyfriend. You need to NOT have a physical attraction, relationship or THOUGHT of either with a blood-relative. It is sick and wrong, and you need HELP.

Anonymous said...

The running theme through most of these confessions is a lack of personal responsibility. I speak from experience: Men can treat you like shit only if you let them. If you expect that one day, if you're a really good girl, he'll come around and realize how wonderful you are, you're dreaming. If he doesn't love you now, he won't love you no matter how well you treat him.

As for the incest, I won't comment on the morality of it. I'll only say that that relationship can only bring everyone pain, even if it really is true love.

Anonymous said...

Anyone read V.C. Andrew's Flowers In The Attic series?

What about Anne Rice's Mayfair Witch series? You know, Taltos and such?

Gives you a different look on these incestuous situations. Still, disturbing. I think that most people are only THIS shocked because my god woman, your HALF BROTHER?!

I can't even imagine without starting to gag. And I mean that in the most non-judgmental way possible.

Actually, my aunt is the product of two first cousins. Another thought that makes me gag, however, she just happens to be my favorite aunt.

This world never ceases to amaze me. Sometimes not in a good way.

Anonymous said...

It's not so much the barf factor as the horrible, inappropriate personal boundaries represented therein.

If it's not hurting anyone, you can go get you crazy ass railed by Barney for all we care, but just keep in mind that some impulses simply do NOT come from a healthy place, no matter how hard you try to gussy them up.

Anonymous said...

YOUR HALF BROTHER. where are your parents in this whole situation? and you SLEPT with him? i can even MAYBE justify an innocent, idolizing CRUSH... but sex with a sibling is just too far.

Anonymous said...

To the author of #2128:

I feel like I could have written that whole thing myself. Why are men so fucking selfish, childish, immature, irresponsible, and whiny? The more I think about the way he treats me the more angry I get. And the sex... ha, yeah, I get it like once a week and it lasts like three minutes. Fun for me? Not hardly.
Bah, fuck men.

Patti said...

I used to come to this site to read confessions from women that regardless of how different their situation seemed from mine, I saw a little of myself in there.

Now it seems like people come here simply to bash the people who had the courage or desperation to confess, to simply make themselves feel better, or to have something to bitch about.

I'm totally for calling people out on certain behavior, but there's a fine line between it being helpful and it being a cruel justified way to be a bitch.

Out of all the "EW!! You're so gross!" comments about the half brother/incest shit, only a few asked about her past or the parents. Not everyone grows up in a loving and peaceful environments and what is sick or twisted to one, isn't to someone else - believe it or not.

We don't anything about her past or why she went down the road she did. We don't how it was possible that a 13 year old was dating a 20 year old at the time and that he promised to "never make her do anything she didn't want." All of that speaks volumes to me about what kind of household she may have been living in, but until I know the truth - I'm not going to write in here about how disgusting and gross and horrible she is.

Stop being bitches for one second, and imagine spilling your fears and frustrations only to have everyone tell you how horrible you are.

Anonymous said...

Patti, if someone truly wants constructive hand-patting, then duh, tell it to a therapist or friend rather than a flock of anonymous Internet strangers.

The online world has been Butthole Central for what, over a decade now? Yet a contingent of prigs insists on still acting shocked, like it's some brand-new development.

Anonymous said...

Well put 1:50!

Patti said...

Obviously, it's not anything new in the world - for people to put down people.

My point of commenting was simply to suggest that may be some people could take some time to think about the person writing the confession. Maybe think about how they are feeling and why they are feeling that way.

And I know that it's not popular to be one of those people who like to try to see good in people and who try to be helpful instead of hurtful, but that was my coapbox moment, I guess.

All I was really commenting on was the change this site has overcome and how it would be nice for people to be a little more compassionate.

Anonymous said...

ROFLMAO! Patti, you're wasting your breath. People who don't want these reactions should not confess here. It's just like 1:50 said.

Anonymous said...

Yeah 3:15, you're right; everybody loves to be bashed, judged and called horrible names by ignorant people like you.

Allie said...

i won't bash a woman who, for example: confesses that she hates her husband or confesses that she wipes with her abusive husband's workshirts as an small source of empowerment. or maybe a woman who wishes she never would have had kids with her ex, or the woman that fantasizes about her best friend's husband. there's a little bit of "that" in ALL of us.

But the incest? Apalling. Not on her part, necessarily, but what about her obviously older half brother? What kind of sick mindset does it take to screw your baby sister? What about her obvlivious parents? Wow.

You're right, it may go back to the household, but either way - her posting on here was a cry for help, and maybe by reading the several disturbed and dumbfounded reactions of the readers to her story, she can get the help that she needs.

1:50, right on the money!

Anonymous said...

If calling it gross is bashing her, then yes, we are guilty of that. But, nobody called her horrible names, they called the act horrible. I see alot of people here telling her she needs help. If that is judging, then so be it. If she didn't want to hear what has been said and what is going to be said, she should not have posted here. 1:50 IS right on the money. 3:59, you are the ignorant one hon.

Anonymous said...

Yah, the only name callers are Patti, Saki, and a few of the other anon's who are upset that some are calling incest gross. Sounds like you commenters are the ones who are immature, angry, judgemental and ignorant.

Anonymous said...

I would like to know what horrible names she was called. 3:59, I'm asking YOU......I kinda am thinkin' that you are either Patti or Saki. But really, what horrible names was she called?

SaKi said...

7:34 -

LOL! 3:59 isn't Saki. Notice I use my screenname. I don't hide behind the whole "anon" BS. However, I am flattered that you would think I'd post an ANON comment after all my Saki comments. Not the brightest bulb of the bunch are you?

Anon 4:58 -

I don't care if you call incest gross, but for the love of everything holy, try to maturely say so instead of sounding and acting like a 5th grader. The "EWWWWWWWWWWWWWW; OMG THAT'S SO GROSSSSSSSSSSSSSS" went out of style when Aquanet hairspray was still IN style.

Anonymous said...

Shut up Saki, you pig. No one here agrees with you.

SaKi said...

So mature anon 6:42. Gosh, I wish I could be like you when I grow up. LOL

Fuck off.

coladiola said...

We're SOCIETY. It's our JOB to bash incest. Anonymity means she doesn't get bashed in real life for having confessed here, and that she can come back with different confessions and expect support and me-toos without reference to incest. This is a beautiful thing. But she needs to go to a therapist until she at least wants to not commit incest any more.

Anonymous said...

Thank you.

- An Extremely Lucky Incosiderate Jerk.