My name is Ida and I had previously posted to TWC concerning my husband’s fetish and desire to cum on my face, a practice I felt was totally disgusting. These feelings existed between my husband and me for quite a while and finally I got to the point where I needed to vent my frustration and is where TWC entered the story. My posting generated quite and stir and so much feedback that it is what gave birth to Dawn's initiation of the Saturday Sex Chat feature. At the time of the original posting, some of the comments posted opened my eyes to certain aspects associated with my issue that I hadn't considered, so I had committed to post a follow up to describe how the issue was finally resolved. For those of you who are not familiar with the original post, I would recommend before you read this post any further, visit and read the original post and associated comments. It was posted on Monday, November 19 under the Group titled "True Wife Confessions 221 B Baker Street", post number 2208. For those of you who are familiar, the following describes what happened after the original posting and how things turned out. As mentioned in my comments to the 2208 posting, your comments made me pause because there were many aspects associated with my husband desiring to cum on my face that I hadn't thought about and frankly, my hard stance of disgust and anger became muted and allowed me to evaluate the overall situation and my feelings and reaction to the act. The first thing following the posting to TWC was to tell my husband I had major issues with him cumming on my face and until I was able to resolve those issues (and yes, I told him he would be involved in the resolution process), I would not allow him to do this to me. At first he didn't take it very well and pouted like a little boy but after a few days he got over it and gave me the space I needed to bring the issue to closure. The first revelation had to do with my aversion to the practice of a man cumming on a woman's face, specifically due to my lack of knowledge on how much this was accepted as "normal" sex for couples in the bedroom, and not just something done to porn actors and prostitutes. This eliminated the "I am all alone" feelings I had about this. The next breakthrough was associated with my feelings that this act was totally for him and from which I derive no pleasure. When he would cum on my face there were two things I had to deal with. The first was my disgust for the act and my belief that it is an abnormal practice for married couples and the second (which is directly tied to the first), I would not be in any way sexually aroused when the act occurred. The two ingredients in this recipe guaranteed the same outcome every time my husband came on my face, anger and disgust. Basically, I would just lay there and he would do it to me and that would be that. No satisfaction, just anger. Two weeks ago, I sat down with my husband and told him I was ready to discuss the issue with him. At that time, I told him he didn't understand the feelings I was harboring when he came on my face even though I told him I didn't enjoy and didn't really like him doing it to me. I then told him about TWC and how I posted as a means of venting my anger and frustration. He initially became upset about me making our personal sex life public, but when I told him the posting was anonymous, he calmed down. I went to the computer and pulled up TWC and my post and asked him to read it. He did and when he finished reading, he just sat there in silence, staring at the screen. He eventually got up from the chair and we embraced for what seemed like eternity and yes, we both did shed a few tears. He did not realize the depth of anger I had been feeling over this. I told him I would be willing to once again allow him to cum on my face but I still had a difficult time with it being a "one way" act. I told him we needed to figure out a way for me to get pleasure out the act along with him so we can share vice one giving and one receiving. We did find a way and here's how. We have tried this several times and each time it worked with no negative feelings. We lay and bed and fondle one another, getting each other sexually aroused. I would bring him to the point of erection and gently stroke him to keep him erect but not to the point of cumming. He would rub my pussy, working me with his fingers until I am very wet and nearing the point of orgasm. Next, he would leave my side and stand alongside the bed where I would suck his penis while he would be rubbing my clit with his finger. The next part takes a little practice because I want to be nearing peaking but do not want to orgasm before he cums so we signal to one another when there is a need to slow down. When he is ready to cum, he lets me know and removes his penis from my mouth and grasps it with his hand allows it shoot wherever he desires. While he his bringing himself to orgasm, I am continuing to rub my clit to keep myself near peak arousal but not to orgasm. After he finishes cumming on my face, he goes down between my legs and brings me to orgasm using his tongue. It is amazing on how my feelings about having cum on my face changed when it occurred when I was sexually aroused. I no longer focused on what his cum felt like or its smell while on my face because my mind was totally fixated on my own pleasure. I guess it proves the fact if you say and think you hate something long enough, when you try it you will hate it. As for the cleanup, he goes to the bathroom to get a warm wet washcloth and gently and lovingly wipes his cum from my face so I don't even have to get out of bed. We've even tried this method of parallel arousal for blowjobs finishing with him cumming in my mouth and me swallowing. Even though I've done it for him in the past, I found the taste of his cum objectionable and really had to force the swallow. Once again, having him cum in my mouth and swallowing while at a peak state of sexual changed my whole reaction to the feel and taste of his cum. Now, I am not particularly about the aftertaste of his cum but I found having a glass of wine next to the bed easily solves the problem.
With all of this said, I would like to take this opportunity to thank TWC and all of you who provided comments to my original posting. You have changed mine and my husbands life by, bringing us closer together, eliminating destructive anger that had entered our lives and helping us make our sex life more fulfilling. Who says one person cannot make a difference? Ida