Monday, July 20, 2009

True Wife Confessions 296 moths on the screen

Confession #2951

When will I ever learn that there is no satisfaction to be had in engaging with you? If I try to get you to see that you have been unfair to me...if I try to shame you, It whips back on me. It angers me that it has taken me 20 years to figure this out.

Confession #2952

I am falling in love with someone else. He's smart and funny and thinks I'm amazing. He has drive and ambition and interests that go beyond World of Warcraft. Although this is all very new, I'm already thinking about how to get out of this sham of a marriage so I can be with him when the time is right. And I'm not feeling the least bit guilty about it. I deserve to be cherished and loved.

Confession #2953

I hate that you are so quick to get angry, Im still scared of you from the last major outburst that you had 2 years ago. I know you know this and use it in your favor every now and then. Last night you called me a fat pig. Thats rich coming from someone who has more stretch marks than I do, and you havent had a kid. When I say that you should be treating me with respect, its not because I've been brainwashed by the book on relationships that im reading. Its because Im your partner, the mother of your child, your "soul mate" as you once called me and someone who deserves it! THATS WHY you useless prick!

Confession #2954

Well, I guess this is more of a cry for advice from everyone. I have been dating a guy for the past 8 months. This man is great in holding me, making me feel safe, letting me know I am loved, and just being a great “teddy bear”. Yet he cant keep a job, he is lazy and sleeps in all day, watches movies or plays video games. I love this man sooooooo much! Yet I have cheated on him several times. Simply cause he isn’t very good in bed, he doesn’t shower regularly or brush his teeth. When we make love I wanna be able to kiss him passionately and smell his soft skin, but I cant. My mother tells me I should kick him out, but if I do I am scared he will take his own life. I am a single mother who receives no help from the father. Which means I am supporting all 3 of us, with the little bit of money I make. I have never been with anyone who holds me the way he does. It is as if his arms are magic. I feel as if he counts on me too much because I am his ride or die chick. Everyday is for him and my child. I only do what I do to make sure they are happy and taken care of. He doesn’t even get along with my child very well, which makes things a little bit harder. I sometimes feel like I need a break from relationships, considering I have been in one since I was 13 and am now 25. What should I do? I have other offers from some good men who have jobs and the things a man should have. But I don’t know if they are worth leaving those magic arms. HELP!

Confession #2955

I wish I could read your freaking mind. Then I would know whether or not you really want to marry me, or if you act so lackluster and indifferent because you really don't want to go through with it, despite saying differently. It's not like there's some big wedding to plan. I have no family, and you have only two sisters, so a simple beach wedding and dinner at a nice restaurant afterwards is all we have planned. We have the rings and marriage license, but you still act so damned indifferent. I'm not asking for a big dress, fancy wedding & reception, or even a damned cake. You don't care what date I set, what we will wear, where it will be, or anything else. Put your fucking two cents in, please, so I'll know that you actually give a shit.

Confession #2956

I missed you terribly when you were away on business.

Confession #2957

To my m-i-l
My little girl will NOT be 6 feet tall. Yes she is tall now for her age, not by much. I've told you that when I was a little girl I was very tall, taller than everyone else until I was 12, then everyone caught up to me and I've been almost the same height since then, 5'4. Everyone in my family grows like this. When I told you this you actually questioned me by saying in a really wrong tone that my daughter takes after you, not me.
I've told you that but you insist that she will be "6 feet tall" because you spoke to someone you work with that had a tall toddler and she ended up nearly 6 feet....ugh.....we're not even related to this person...why would my daughter be like them....I just ignored you and said uh huh whatever.. Dont ever talk to me about my daughters height again.
Again and again I keep hearing how much she is exactly like all of you in every way and not even related to me, Im her mother, I gave birth to her. She DOES take after me. I can clearly look at her and see things from my family, the way her face is shaped, the way her body is shaped, movements she has, she really reminds me of my dad. Of course you keep shooting me down when I suggest that. My daughter cant even do the simpliest things without being compared to one of you. She wanted the outfit her doll was wearing changed, I helped her with it. Before I could put the other outfit on the doll, you see that the doll was unclothed and said, oh she takes after auntie so and so, auntie so and so used to love to take her does clothes off. UGH, no-I took the dolls clothes off. JUST STOP IT.
And you wonder why I dont really want to be around you anymore, you treat me with no respect. I DONT EVEN HAVE A CHOICE WHERE I SPEND ANY FUCKING HOLIDAY, ITS AUTOMATICALLY ASUMED THAT BECAUSE MY FAMILY IS NOT AROUND WE SPEND EVERY HOLIDAY WITH YOU. After you ever stopped to think that maybe I would like to have one fucking holiday without you. OH, of course not, you people are the fucking kennedy's, why would'nt every single person in your realm not want to be with you every second of every fucking day......IM TIRED OF YOU DICTATING MY FAMILYS own husband puts you all above me time and time again. I cant even begin to tell you how far down on the food chain I am in his life, you all are on top. And you dont treat me with any respect. My s-i-l had the nerve to tell me to my face that none of you like me, if it werent for my daughter, none of you would ever want to see me again. When I told my husband that his sister said that to me, he defended her and said I must had misunderstood, she would never say that. Im so fed up, I mean nothing to him. I want to take my daughter and move far away and never see any of you again.
I can just feel how things will be in years to come, me and my daughter against all of you. Me and her will win.

Confession #2958

I am secretly tickled to death that you have been asked to be in a movie.

Confession #2959

Remember years ago when you came home with a broken nose? You told me you were telling gay jokes to the trainer at the gym and she punched you. Now you know and I know that's not the whole truth. You were probably running your mouth not knowing when to shut up, annoying the hell out of her with your stupid babbling, and she finally had enough and just punched you so you would stop talking. Instead of learning a valuable lesson, you began your quest for getting her fired, only to fail. If only you knew how annoying your family and friends find you.

Confession #2960

You are an incredible ass. Having nagged you for 6 weeks to follow up after your vasectomy, I stupidly assumed you'd take care of the second sample on your own, like a big boy who doesn't need his mama telling him what to do. Like a man who protects the best interests of his woman as well as his own. Instead we've been having unprotected sex without knowing for sure that the surgery "took". This is NOT okay. This is FAR from okay. Yes, the probability of an unplanned pregnancy is low, but it's not zero. What kills me is that you didn't bother to tell me that you hadn't gotten around to taking care of business. I'm glad to know that my health, my future, my finances, my happiness, my peace of mind, and my trust in you are less important than surfing eBay for toy parts and your other projects. I haven't decided if this is a deal breaker yet, but I do know that you're "going solo" until you take care of this.


Anonymous said...

To 2954:

You gave us every reason why you should dump the loser you support. Don't you deserve better than him?

Anonymous said...

#2954 it's worth leaving those magic arms! You need a break from relationships. It is going to SUCK to be alone but you will start noticing how nice you can be to yourself and how much you appreciate it.

Anonymous said...

Yes #2954 you should leave. You have one pro: his arms. You have a lot more cons. There are men that work, give great sex and will hold you as well. Don't settle.

Anonymous said...

Fuck the "magic arms" about finding someone with a "helping hand" that will actually be your partner in life instead of a lazy, stinky, moocher.

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Anonymous said...

2955 - You're with a MAN. He doesn't give a shit. Plan your wedding and simply tell him where to be at what time and hand him the clothes he's to wear. For hells sake woman.

Anonymous said...

You say he doesnt get along with your child. Your child is more important than being with someone that gives you the warm fuzzies. Leave him and make a promise to yourself that you will only date men that are good to your child in the future. Your child is depending on you to only allow people into his/her life that treat him/her well. Your job as a mother is to put your child first.
Keep looking, you'll find someone that has ALL the qualities you want, not just one.

Anonymous said...

#2952--WOW can be the death of a relationship!

Anonymous said...

He doesn’t even get along with my child very well, which makes things a little bit harder

^^^just a "LITTLE BIT harder"?? you realy need to take some time and think about that one..time to grow up sweetie

Anonymous said...

2952- Magic arms? No such thing. He's obviously a big loser and if he doesn't get a long with your child, then he should have been history long ago. He's not going to take his own life, he's manipulating you into being his caregiver with that lie.

2957- Get out now, while you still can. Don't stay married to a man who doesn't put you as NUMBER 1 on his priority list. His extended family should not come before his immediate family, which now consists of you and his daughter. Your daughter will grow up thinking this hostility within a family is normal- you don't want to do that to her. Divorce him and then move. Fast.

A Crone Too Soon said...

#2954: Your child has to take priority in your life. A man who can't hold a job, is lazy, who doesn't bathe (yuck) and who is a lackluster lover is not worth keeping, especially if he doesn't "get along" with you child. Trust me darlin', he ain't gonna get better with age.

Do not let him intimidate you with the threat of taking his own life. He is responsible for his own behavior and how he chooses to live (or die), not you.

There are many men out there who would love to be a part of you and your child's life, in a loving, caring manner - men who are capable of holding down a job, driving themselves around, and taking a bath.

Don't settle for this person. You and your child are worth far more. Concentrate of your wee one and yourself. If a wonderful partner comes along, then that's just icing on the cake.

#2957: Get the hell out of there. Take your child and divorce the bum. He and his family, whom he places above you, will do nothing but make your life miserable. You both deserve more.

I suffered for 20 years with a m-i-l who is a manipulative, crazy bitch. I finally told my husband that I had served my sentence, and I was having nothing more to do with her and the rest of his nutty family. What a relief.

GroSomeBalls said...

Hulloooo 2954 -- time to cowboy up and grow up yourself. He is going to kill himself if you leave him? That's a reason to stay? Puuuhlease. Seems to me the reasons to leave are: he sucks in bed, cleanliness issues, is a loser with no job and can't get along with your ki. ALL FANTASTIC reasons to ditch the loser. Perhaps it makes him grow up and man up.

Janipurr said...

2954--I am having trouble figuring out why you haven't dumped this total loser already. What, so you think this is the best you can do? Are you that afraid of being alone? Kick his lazy, worthless ass to curb and get some respect for yourself. Being alone has GOT to be better than what you've got now!

2952 said...

2952 here .... he asked me for a divorce Monday night. i'm beyond happy.

A Crone Too Soon said...

2952: I hope your life from now on is a happy one. Best wishes for success with your new love.

Anonymous said...

2955 - He's just not that into you. You said it over and over again, he's indifferent. He could care less. Wake up and hook up with someone that actually wants to be INVOLVED with you. DUH

Anonymous said...

2952..hope everything in your life works out now! Congrats!

2954 said...

I kicked him out! I told him to get a job or move out...He didnt get a job so I "helped" him pack! Made him move his good for nothin butt out!

Anonymous said...

#2954 I've been with the man you've described, only it was him and our child and myself that I was supporting. I realized that I was miserable, no matter how much he said he loved me or our child, I knew he didn't. He was just using me. He didn't shower or brush his teeth either, that would have cut into his WoW or sleep time. Imagine how it bothered him to take care of the baby. I got rid of him over a year ago. I don't miss him in the least. I don't receive help from him either. But for every lum out there there's bound to be someone better for you and your child.