Tuesday, August 14, 2007

True Wife Confessions 202 - the year Rome bans female gladiators

Confession #2011

You sorry ass son of a bitch. You cheated on me. Made me lose my business, have to sell my horse, move in with my parents in their dinky little 2 br trailer with my two boys. You defaulted on the student loans I cosigned for you, making it impossible for me to go back to school, get a car, rent a home, anything. But what did you care? You had your degree. You made threats against me to coerce me into taking back some of the criminal complaints I filed against you. My mom told me not to. But I was afraid of what you'd do if I didn't. You ignored our son, for years. And now? After 13 years of token child support, when it got raised to a real amount, you steal my child. You kidnap him, file for custody, lie to the courts, lie about me. You hacked my Yahoo profile and filled my blog with crap, then used it against me in court. And the judge believed you. Even though I could show where a long time ago I had notified Yahoo and my friends that my profile had been hacked and I couldn't get into it anymore. You got custody. I have to pay you child support. And then, as if your greed knows no bounds, you want to make sure my military disability check is included in my income. You kept your farm subsidy income out of the equation for your child support all those years. But you want a piece of my disability?

I WANT MY SON BACK!!!!!!!


Confession #2012

We have been together for a very long time. I firmly believe that you are the love of my life. I have never felt this way about anyone before. There is one problem.....you are legally, a married man. You never see her, she doesnt live in this county, and you only talk to her with regards to your child. She even knows about me. But i hate this. I hate this little piece of paper that says you are joined to someone else. And it infuriates me that you do not see my point. You tell me..."what is the big deal...Im with you! Everyone knows we are together...I dont see her/ talk to her....she isnt in this country". I know a divorce costs money, and i realize that it isnt that easy with an international marriage. But i NEED it. I need the validation of knowing that I am it. There is no one else. I want to be your wife. I want to have babies with my HUSBAND. Until this happens, I will feel a step below her. Always. She has something that i dont-a husband, my boyfriend! I dont care if feelings are gone between you. -You are mine, and I am yours. And I dont want someone else mixed in. It may only be a piece of paper to you, but to me, in a way, its like she still has you, in a way that i cannot.

I love you more than life itself, but i dont know how much longer I can ignore the big pink elephant.


Confession #2013

I love you so much, Baby. A lot has changed since this time last year. I was posting here about wanting to be with the man we swapped with again. God am I glad we're past that and back to each other. Yeah, it was fun, but it was definately a one time only thing, thank God. I'm so glad I didn't pursue it. I have you girls here to thank largely for that. Thanks for the straight up advice and non judgment. Thanks, Dawn.

Confession #2014

Last evening, my darling husband (of almost 20 years) told me that he 'loves the person that I am."

Wow ~ what a compliment. I just melted.

Confession #2015

My confession is this -

To my dearest husband, I do love you ,your a good man, Our sex life has been down for a while now and i know i have told you that i love your dick but I lied . Its too small i didn't feel like it would be an issue. In the begining we were soo in lust i just didn't care... I have been sleeping with the neighbour for the past month, im soo sorry He came over to help me with the Cable box and I couldn't help but notice in his sweat pants that he was huge...You came home from work early last week and when i came home you said you heard the neighbours having sex and the girl must of climaxed 5 times.... that was me... When you fucked me the other night and you said i felt different and I felt horrible, I can't get him out of my head. I make him wear condoms but they often break I'm worried now cause i am pregnant now but can't bring myself to tell you... i hate myself for doing this...i am going to have an abortion... cause i dont want to hurt you but i can't stop...

Please forgive me

Confession #2016

When you hold me and kiss me and whisper that you love me and everything will be all right? I love you more than I can ever express. You are the missing piece to my puzzle. Thank you my love.

Confession #2017

You are not husband nor were you really my boyfriend but I did really think you were someone I could talk to and that you really wanted to know me.
However, because you insisted that you were working and left right after we had sex even though we both know you could have stayed if you wanted to, and because that wasn't the first time it happened but the third;
because you rarely call me, and when you do it's from your work phone and never from your house-- that you have never invited me to which makes me think you are either hiding a girlfriend or bodies-- not even after you fuck-and-leave to say "hey that was fun..let's get together ______";
because you clearly don't think enough of me to make plans with me more than 3 days in advance even though you know my fucking schedule with the kids (who you have never asked to meet);
because even though you make me completely crazy whenever I see you and even now the thought of kissing you makes me lose my mind and want to see you again, the last time you left I felt like you should have left money on my dresser;
because of these things I broke up with you yesterday-- on work e-mail.


Confession #2018

You know - you could act vaguely excited when I talk about my day. I don't expect a circus of enthusiasm - but a little ANYTHING other than your disinterested silence would be nice.

Confession #2019


I am in love with a man who makes me light up on the inside. I wish he were my husband.

Confession #2020


I remember when we first started talking. There was an instant spark between us. It was a few months before the drama of your ex-wife started. You did all you could to stop the drama I got that came from her. You are the best guy in the world. I love you with all my heart. You are the only guy that has ever cared about me and for that I thank you.

There are times though (because of the situation we have. I can't say much right now) where you say things and make it out that you have the worst life in the world. I'm sorry but you don't. I may not be there with you yet but your life is not as bad as you make it out to be. You also say words to me that hurt. You say you are trying to get through to me but in reality your making things worse. It's the reason why I am not sure if I want to be with you. The things you say push me away and make me rethink what I really want. If that is what you are going for, it's working. At this point I feel like I should just move somewhere and not tell anyone.

I have told you all this but I still get the same shitty comments from you. You may say you love me but it does not feel that way.

I don't know what to do...

39 comments:

Anonymous said...

#2015 - you are a total idiot.

Anonymous said...

#2012 - I've been in your shoes for four years and counting, except she's not in another country. She's in another state, in a home for the disabled because she did meth and had an aneurysm. They already had papers for the divorce, but hadn't met up to sign them when her brain ate it. I came along a year or so later. It's bitter because it's just paperwork. She can't even ARGUE anything. And he still won't get a divorce, because he fails all things paperwork. Luckily, he makes up in other ways, and most of the time that's enough.

Anonymous said...

2015 - I'd get an STD check too along with that pregnancy test. If your well hung cable guy neighbor was quick to fuck a married woman, you certainly aren't the only one m'dear.

Anonymous said...

#2011- every dog has his day. Trust that.

Anonymous said...

2011: I hope you get the opportunity to screw this jerk over in the worst way. Obviously all he cares about is his money. I wish you luck and hopefully you can find yourself one hell of a nasty lawyer.

2015: So you are going to get an abortion and stay with your small boyfriend and keep screwing the cable guy on the side? You know, abortion isn't birth control. Why don't you be a big girl and either stop screwing around or find some reliable birth control? Or better yet, leave your SMALL boyfriend, give the baby up for adoption and go find a "bigger" guy.

2017: Good for you! That guy is definitely hiding something and you are wise to dump him. Too bad you couldn't send a text message!

alosha said...

sorry but I agree about 2015. you need to either get out of your marriage or stop what the fuck you're doing. damn.

Anonymous said...

2015: I understand it's genetic.

Anonymous said...

2:37pm- den whore again?

Anonymous said...

you people are fucked up

Nick said...

I think most of those were about me.

Anonymous said...

Bwhahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha! You're funny Nick!

Rosa said...

2015

There will be no forgiveness. Your husband will find out and he will know the reason why you fucked your neighbor and he will hate you for the rest of his life. I hope there are no kids

Nathyn said...

2015 you should check out survivinginfidelity.com because I think you really need it. And 11:16 is right you'd do yourself justice to get tested.

Anonymous said...

2015, this kind of shit pisses me off so bad. Why did you marry him if he couldn't satisfy you? You think it's a fucking joke to mess around with someone's heart and life? Most of us just want someone to love us and be faithful and happy. You said he works and he's a good man. But you are a dirty lowdown scumbag of a woman. I hope he finds out and divorces you and finds a woman who really loves him .....and the rest of your life you are in shitty relationships where the man treats you like the cheap dirt you are.

Anonymous said...

2019-Me too. It's awful sometimes isn't it. Other time it's the only thing that sustains me.

Anonymous said...

2019: me too and I wish i could change it......... I love him so much it hurts.

Nathyn said...

For #2011 and #2019

#2011 you have to get a lawyer. I don't know what else to say. I will pray for you but you need some kind of legal support. You need to get some kind of plan of action together.

#2019 8:44 and 9:22 you need to get into marriage counseling to see what is missing from the marriage or simply tell your husband it's over and you don't love him anymore. It's unfair to him and yourself to feel this way.

The hurt you're feeling comes from allowing yourself to become emotionally entangled with a person who isn't your spouse. Someone who was is not yours to have.

Love is not an emotion, it's a choice we can all make. When you're in a relationship, (especially a marriage) and you meet someone outside of the relationship, this is a test of your which will either strengthen or destroy your relationship based on your choices. The choice is to stray or choose to love the person you made your vow to.

Is this person you married such a bad person it's worth destroying them by taking your love from them? Are you putting the same effort into loving them as you are the other person.

In America today the marriage vows are just words MOST people don't take seriously but you have the power and can make the choice to make those vows real or not.

Many people don't make this choice. Most times it's all about how one feels but most people will not make the "choice". That's why our divorce rates are so high.

Both spouses must make the choice to love one another and simply staying in the marriage is not making the choice. It's easier but it's the same as making the choice.

As a helpful hint to all, if anyone is doing something that have to hide from their spouse they should think about it before they do it, because it's normally not the right thing, emotions aside.

Anonymous said...

Nathyn: You are an idiot and just shut the hell up.

Anonymous said...

#2017 -

How can you complain he never asked to meet your kids?! That's a gift to your kids, if you ask me. Be careful who you let around them - this affects them DEEPLY.

Anonymous said...

Hey Nathyn - how long have YOU been married?

I am 2019.

I can assure you that your rationale means nothing to me. I have sacrificed, tried, coaxed and cajoled my husband.

When it is over, Yes - it is over. I doubt my husband will be destroyed, I don't suspect he has much emotion in him at all - but until our child is a bit older I do not plan on leaving him.

Until you have walked in my shoes, keep your theories about why my marriage is not successful to yourself. The nerve of suggesting that I haven't tried hard enough!

Everyone has all the answers until they end up in the same place as the rest of us.

Anonymous said...

#2015 ... yeah, I call bullshit. Which silly soap opera did you get that story line from?

Thanks for playing, better luck next time.

Nathyn said...

#2019 I made my post with the info given, and still stand behind the post. I ask you to ask yourself what does it do for you to stay at home with a man who doesn't love you. Is he so good with the kids that you stay, because kids pick up on those emotions and it may not be causing as much harm to stay. Here's one story about this: http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,179146,00.html

And if you step back and read my post without being defensive I made it clear BOTH spouses have to choose to love and if he's not choosing to love then what's the point. Are you ready to move on? Is this new person available? Are they marriage or truly even date material? And is this marriage really over? are the questions to ask. I am sorry if I offended you.

Until both parties chose to fix it a broken marriage is a broken marriage and to the child a broken home is a broken home (whether they're older or younger). I again I stand behind my statements.

My years of marriage or not doesn't take away from the fact husband and wife both have to love and show love for another or the marriage will fail. Love is a choice. If your husband chooses not to show love and will not treat you as a husband then maybe you should walk away now or at least set a plan into motion to do so, with dignity and know that you did what you could do. You're playing the martyr for something that may not be worth emotionally dying for. But you have to make that call. And you will in your time.

3:31 If you read my statements you will see that I am correct simply by default. Half of all marriages fail, 60% of men are said to cheat while 50% of women are said to cheat. If these stats are right gain I will again state MOST do not give a damn about the marriage vows or at least start to not care at some point.

It sounds to me that maybe these marriage are indeed over or maybe your husbands need a wake up call. But then again you are the one's going through this pain instead of being defensive, hear what I'm saying and maybe my advice may be of some assistance. And no matter what in the end you will find that in these matters I have made accurate statements.

It's easy to come on here and anonymously bash me but it's hard to make a post that may be helpful and possibly add guidance (even if very general) for people who may want the help. And calling me an idiot probably won't help anyone and doesn't offend me in any way as we don't know each other personally.

Nathyn said...

#2019 one last thing, my theories weren't about your marriage but ALL modern marriages. Marriages fail when spouses give up and sadly it only takes one party to give up.

You marry trusting the other partner and sometimes things don't work out in the "me" generation. It's a sad thing but you can only control what you do.

Your husband is a grown man and should do right by you as a husband whose taken a vow to you. I don't think that's a lot to ask of a spouse.

Anonymous said...

Oh Nathyn, Really! Blow it out your ass!

Anonymous said...

hi, im a guy and im 22 years old. i was spending time with my girlfriend when she happened to be reading this blog. i ended up reading it with her. this blog has quite enlightened me in the idea that a lot of people are going through such happy and good moments in their lives and others going through such bad times. though there was a confession that really shocked me. confession #2015. when i read it i was immediately sadden and afraid. afraid that such a thing could happen, afraid that you cheated on your husband even though you said your man was a good good man. that really scared me. it made me think of me in the future, working hard, coming home to hear my neighbor having sex with this woman, her climaxing 5 times and it turns out it was my wife. i think the thought of betrayal was the hardest to take in, it sadden me and scared me. i cant believe you would do such a thing. why would you do that to such a good man because of a simple physical factor. i am afraid for my future. for what my marriage could be. and i most importantly am afraid of finding that "perfect" one and then be betrayed by her.several times, such scenarios have gone through my mind and each one has left me heartbroken even though im not even fucking married. i hope i never experience such a thing. i do hope your husband finds out about it. i do not know if your husband wears a condom when you are having sex with him, but have you even considered the idea that maybe, just maybe that child that you are carrying, is his? thank you for ruining my view on love, life and marriage.

Anonymous said...

people people.... shit happens man- couples cheat- in the 70's it was called swingin...it's sux for sure, but it happens. We are in the flesh and temptation is very difficult- esp for those of us nearing the 20 year mark with the same person. Nathan??? I take it your marriage is perfect???

Anonymous said...

Nathyn SUX!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

12:24:

Don't let the tales of one person who whores around ruin your idea of love and marriage. There are plenty of good women out there who appreciate a good man because they are damned hard to find.

Anonymous said...

Nathyn: You look like a MONKEY, you need to leave this site and venture off and take your stupid blog with you.IDIOT!!!!

Nathyn said...
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Nathyn said...

Wow 8:28 AM, an anonymous coward throwing racial insinuations around in a public forum. I thought ape/monkey slurs went out in the 80s. Maybe you should update your catalog. And my blog, stupid or not has nothing to do with what I've said here.

Am I to assume you're a fan of Akon simulating rough sex on a 15 year old girl on stage or Paris Hilton scoffing at the law (I get it, I'm to judgmental and these things are just okay, right). Or maybe you don't like my taste in films. Either way, what does my looking like a "monkey" or my blog have to do with my comments? If nothing, then why bring it up?

Anonymous said...

8:28

Why don't YOU shut the fuck up? If you haven't noticed, people are free to comment on this blog. Perhaps you can start your own...then you can make the rules.

P.S. 8:28--you may be anonymous (unlike Nathyn, who has the guts to post his name AND his blog, I might add), but sweetie, your sheets are showing.

Anonymous said...

#2011 - that SUCKS. I hope that fucker gets what's coming to him.

Anonymous said...

I have read and re-read all of Nathyn's comments and I don't get why people are enraged with him? What he's said is not offensive, hurtful, unintelligent or in my opinion, wrong. What's wrong with YOU people?

Anonymous said...

2015 - It's better for everyone if you get an abortion.

Use this experience as a learning tool of many things you should not repeat.

#1 - change brands of condoms if they keep braking. Trojan Magnums work well for the "well endowed"
I only had one break in 10 years.

#2 - get honest with your husband and tell him what's going on. It's going to suck, but you need to put on your big girl panties and deal with your consequences.

#3 - get both you and your husband tested for STD's. Who knows what else the hung neighbor has in his pants.

You should probably take a step back and re-evaluate your life. Sounds like there is a lot of stuff you are not happy with.

Anonymous said...

#2015

I feel so bad for you that you had no moral compass at all. It really sucks for your future children and especially for your current husband.

I wonder what you would do if you found out he was sleeping with your nieghbor's wife because she tighter or her boobs were bigger??

Nastyness. you give females a bad name.

anonyman said...

#2015: you're full of shit.

Anonymous said...

2015 Please don't have an abortion. This child could be the miracle in your life. You never know...

Anonymous said...

2015 is obviously a troll. C'mon folks.