tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post966984760020707240..comments2023-08-25T09:21:25.015-04:00Comments on True Wife Confessions: True Wife Confessions 80 Around the world in DaysDawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12920042208198309201noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-39183833369068379992006-09-26T10:11:00.000-04:002006-09-26T10:11:00.000-04:00792 - Maybe he's cheating on you? I would definit...792 - Maybe he's cheating on you? I would definitely get the ball rolling to find out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-6669459905480317952006-09-26T09:37:00.000-04:002006-09-26T09:37:00.000-04:00I took down the cut and paste comments from Heathe...I took down the cut and paste comments from Heather's Blog. I feel more comfortable, if interested in reading the comments ( which were very funny), you go right to her.<br /><br />www.dooce.comDawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12920042208198309201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-68814318377552748832006-09-26T08:54:00.000-04:002006-09-26T08:54:00.000-04:00dude, ever hear of links? Handy little things tha...dude, ever hear of links? Handy little things that you can post so people can choose whether or not to read seven billion comments left on another blog (that I happen to love, but come ON!).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-13968443192231394462006-09-26T02:21:00.000-04:002006-09-26T02:21:00.000-04:00#796
You have every right to keep on your guard....#796<br /> You have every right to keep on your guard. <br /> I use to work with adults with developmental disabilities in a group home setting, none of the adults could walk at the house that I worked at, however at other houses it was a different story. <br />The fact that really bothered me in your confession was the idea that these people are not watching their child. For a sue-happy family, they don't seem to be worried about jail time for child negligence. There are just too many instances where a family with a mentally disabled child/children don't have enough information or the knowledge to raise them in a safe environment & keep a close eye on them. What if the child were to end up hurting your son? What then? Sue you for not keeping your door locked? You are a house wife & a stay at home mom, not a stay at home babysitter for someone else's kids. It's unfair that your husband put you in that situation, & more shockingly didn't seem a bit fazed about the safety of his own son.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-3155101014638891802006-09-26T01:51:00.000-04:002006-09-26T01:51:00.000-04:00That was a little tedious. And was that rude? Ma...That was a little tedious. And was that rude? Maybe just a little?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-65991676187054425722006-09-26T00:28:00.000-04:002006-09-26T00:28:00.000-04:00WTH was that?
Did someone escape from their cell?WTH was that?<br />Did someone escape from their cell?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-27079496190174526022006-09-26T00:04:00.000-04:002006-09-26T00:04:00.000-04:00Wow, anonymous 7:21... wouldn't it have been easie...Wow, anonymous 7:21... wouldn't it have been easier just to link the post in which Dooce's readers commented with their deal breakers?<br /><br />http://www.dooce.com/archives/daily/09_15_2006.html<br /><br />Just seems a whole lot nicer (and less plagarism-y) to link the source instead of copying their words and removing the names..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-31838981973796572972006-09-25T19:21:00.000-04:002006-09-25T19:21:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-37753938790025470502006-09-25T17:09:00.000-04:002006-09-25T17:09:00.000-04:00798 - I wish I didn't relate to this so much. The...798 - I wish I didn't relate to this so much. The only thing is, we don't have kids yet. I wonder why I even consider staying when it's obvious he'll never stop drinking and never trust me. He's CONVINCED I am cheating on him, but I'm not. Soon I will if he doesn't shut the fuck up!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-30385532348739936892006-09-25T16:32:00.000-04:002006-09-25T16:32:00.000-04:00796, make sure your doors are locked at all times ...796, make sure your doors are locked at all times when you guys are inside. I would make that an ultimatum for your hubby also. You have to protect your own and that sounds like a really scary situation. I would take precaution for my sons sake. And if you just kept your doors locked so that the child couldn't just enter without being invited, then maybe you could avoid a confrontation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-51473977849949751692006-09-25T16:13:00.000-04:002006-09-25T16:13:00.000-04:00796: Listen to your inner voice-- it's not wrong....796: Listen to your inner voice-- it's not wrong. That disturbed child could very well hurt your child if left alone. Be kind, but don't be foolish. I befriended a mentally handicapped young man years ago that confessed to me that he was inappropriate with young boys. I have a mentally handicapped uncle that, once he hit puberty, became sexually confused and inappropriate. Your research is correct. Guard your child. Again, be kind, just don't take any chances and always supervise. In my opinion, your husband is ill-informed and reckless. Good luck to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-64766579721457558812006-09-25T15:38:00.000-04:002006-09-25T15:38:00.000-04:00#791, I agree that it sounds like your husband may...#791, I agree that it sounds like your husband may be clinically depressed. Apathy, neglecting his responsiblities, and sleeping in the middle of the day are all red flags for clinical depression. <br /><br />He probably got there because he actually DID feel guilty for making bad choices that ruined his family's finances, but had a hard time admitting it. He may not be trying to better his family life right now because, having failed so spectacularly once, he now feels like he's doomed to failure. <br /><br />I know money is tight, but I suggest you look into getting him some professional medical help before you make a decision to leave him-- give him an ultimatum if you have to. You say you loved him once; you say he was responsible and successful and your life together was happy once. I think it's possible the two you could have that again, if you can get him help, and if he is willing to take it.<br /><br />Good luck, and I hope things get better for you and your family soon.<br /><br />(And 11:29, we don't know #791's situation. Maybe she IS working, but they still aren't making enough to make ends meet. Maybe her children have special needs that would make childcare costs prohibitive. Maybe the poster herself has a disability. We don't know, so please let's not judge her too quickly, okay?)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-28548342882751088322006-09-25T15:31:00.000-04:002006-09-25T15:31:00.000-04:00#799
I hear ya. My hubby likes to watch porn als...#799<br /><br />I hear ya. My hubby likes to watch porn also. He will buy it off cable maybe once a month. I don't mind it, but I would love it if he would invite me to watch it with him. It is almost like he is embarrased or something. I don't get it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-3390751031715633872006-09-25T14:38:00.000-04:002006-09-25T14:38:00.000-04:00hey, get off #791. She isn't asking for advice, s...hey, get off #791. She isn't asking for advice, she is confessing how she feels inside.<br />Get off her already.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-79290737865380508482006-09-25T12:21:00.000-04:002006-09-25T12:21:00.000-04:00Time out, #791: From the oversleeping to lack of m...Time out, #791: From the oversleeping to lack of motivation from what seems to be an otherwise brilliant man, clinical depression is definitely a possibility here. I don't know how long this situation has gone on for you to hold this much contempt, but please keep this in mind next time you observe his actions.<br /><br />Also, I don't know how "techie" you are, but being a CS major myself and the fellow wife of a programmer, I know that software as a career is extremely taxing and socially isolating, and many brilliant coders face existential crises early in their career. I lost count of coders-cum-baristas I know personally.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17122097564705988658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-27623429082536073902006-09-25T12:15:00.000-04:002006-09-25T12:15:00.000-04:00There sure are a lot of drunks out there, and take...There sure are a lot of drunks out there, and take it from someone who left one a while ago: they don't change. The kids don't matter, you don't matter, the house payment doesn't matter; all that matters is the next booze fest. Are the times in between drunken asshole episodes really all that worth it? If you keep them in this environment, the kids will grow up to either be alcoholics themselves or will marry one- is that the future you want for them? I would think not. Get out, or get him out, and don't use it as an ultimatum for him to change. Just do it and get on with your lives. They do NOT change unless they themselves want to, but that rarely happens permanently.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-88071608377308531302006-09-25T11:29:00.000-04:002006-09-25T11:29:00.000-04:00#791
This isn't 1950-dual working parents won't m...#791<br /><br />This isn't 1950-dual working parents won't mar your children for life. Daycare issues? Try separate shifts so there's always a parent home with the kids. The burden shouldn't just fall on his shoulders to carry the responsibility of providing for the family, especially if money is such a huge issue with you-that is, unless you're stuck with some sort of Dark Age mentality of needing The Man of the House to provide for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com