tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post7078990817605132790..comments2023-08-25T09:21:25.015-04:00Comments on True Wife Confessions: True Wife Confessions 210 - the year the Romans make peace with the ScotsDawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12920042208198309201noreply@blogger.comBlogger53125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-60928300860237026762007-10-16T12:37:00.000-04:002007-10-16T12:37:00.000-04:00Number 2106, are you me? That's the same comment ...Number 2106, are you me? That's the same comment I've been known to make from time to time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-87448164015782222752007-09-27T13:35:00.000-04:002007-09-27T13:35:00.000-04:00First of all, I think that anyone of any gender or...First of all, I think that anyone of any gender or status can come on here and say whatever the hell they want. The point of this blog is to vent. Sometimes when you vent you feel better and you get reactions from people both favorable and unfavorable. Deal with it. <BR/><BR/>Second, the male confession blog that was started ages ago closed because anytime a man wrote one the comments were filled with women berating him and tell him that he was either giving up, or an asshole, or not caring enough, or he didn't understand, or he's stupid, or what have you. <BR/><BR/>And thrid, #2098 - you may deserve to be happy with your other man, but your husband deserves happiness as well. Cut yourselves both loose.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-65697743600516524952007-09-27T09:33:00.000-04:002007-09-27T09:33:00.000-04:00to cc, sarah and d:all us "married people" are try...to cc, sarah and d:<BR/><BR/>all us "married people" are trying to get you to realize that NOW you think you have an idea of what you would do in a certain situation...<BR/><BR/>however, when you are actually IN a certain situation, there may be lots of factors which make you do something totally different. don't be so quick to judge and hand out advice, since you don't know what it's like to be married and have kids, you only THINK you do. <BR/><BR/>to everyone, there's no need to call people names, even the ones who differ in opinions other than yourself.<BR/><BR/>i personally don't condone cheating and believe i would do things differently, however, i am not laying judgement either. i don't know all the facts, so if i have something that i think might be USEFUL, i comment, otherwise, i keep my mouth shut.<BR/><BR/>i also disagree with diabling comments, i think it's good.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-68443928991781598402007-09-27T01:01:00.000-04:002007-09-27T01:01:00.000-04:00Why is no one even considering women being honest ...Why is no one even considering women being honest and just telling their husbands they want an open marriage. If you are staying for the kids and trying to have a good relationship with their father, your husband, says "Hey, honey, I think we should date other people." Make rules, set boundaries, but who knows it could make your sex lives much hotter. It is ourselves that determine our lives and relationships and how it all works together.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-12069275350793306572007-09-27T00:55:00.000-04:002007-09-27T00:55:00.000-04:00obviously the few people, including myself, who ha...obviously the few people, including myself, who have written a comment trying to show you people how immature you are acting, and how you're ruining this site by attacking each other on the comment boards, were just writing to nobody. Get over yourselves. This is pathetic.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-19101128939838777442007-09-27T00:03:00.000-04:002007-09-27T00:03:00.000-04:00I couldn't agree more. NO MORE TROLL BUFFETT.I couldn't agree more. NO MORE TROLL BUFFETT.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-90193001153150116522007-09-26T19:05:00.000-04:002007-09-26T19:05:00.000-04:00REMINDER: DON'T FEED THE TROLLS!REMINDER: DON'T FEED THE TROLLS!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-55097808467685355342007-09-26T18:56:00.000-04:002007-09-26T18:56:00.000-04:008:44I think what I was TRYING to say (I was pretty...8:44<BR/><BR/>I think what I was TRYING to say (I was pretty wound up at the time of my initial comment) was that I am SO sad at how women today handle themselves in relationships. I never think cheating is a logical answer to anything, ever. who are we to demand faithfulness and honesty if we cannot even do the same?<BR/><BR/>AND, my "logic" was meaning to imply that if me being "young" is why I don't understand THAT side of it, I'm not sure I want to "grow up", as everyone so graciously puts it. i don't think i need to lower my standards and expectations to live thru the pain in order to understand.<BR/><BR/>there is nothing wrong with MY thinking that we should conduct our lives honestly and respectfully. women that handle situations by cheating, lying and harboring resentment make me not want to "grow up" and get myself into that situation, if THAT is how it has to be...? :-/ it's so sad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-47871359333878620612007-09-26T18:47:00.000-04:002007-09-26T18:47:00.000-04:0010:00 - thank you for your honest, civil and under...10:00 - thank you for your honest, civil and understanding response.<BR/><BR/>you are right, i understand just "getting a divorce" isn't always as easy as it sounds, and i don't mean to take away from that. I just don't agree with suffering through a marriage and then turning it into a lie "for the sake of" others... i know kids that would have been much better off had their parents communicated, reached a common ground and split on somewhat of amiable terms instead of dragging it out and making it a house seeping with bitterness, lies, and deceit.<BR/><BR/>than again, what do i know. i'm young, single and my parents & both sets of grandparents are still married... i guess i live in my own perfect little world ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-46158516348534006942007-09-26T18:39:00.000-04:002007-09-26T18:39:00.000-04:00It is so funny how we "anonymously" feel as if we ...It is so funny how we "anonymously" feel as if we need to defend ourselves. so i am going to do just that.<BR/><BR/>I'm the "23" you were referring to. And judging how "i know nothing" and how D is a "queer" because of his opinions, YOU must be one of the women cheating and making excuses for her behavior on a regular basis... someone who is SO spiteful of the life she leads that she can't help but ridicule people that feel that, as women, we shouldn't play the "poor me, i am so abused and misunderstood, i MUST sleep with my husband's best friend and/or coworker because they make me feel like a goddess" card. <BR/><BR/>YOU must be one of those women, otherwise you would not be so close minded in the COMMENT section of this site. Just because other's ideas dont perfectly match your own, shocking as it is, doesn't mean they are wrong. Open your mind, and let go of the bitterness you have towards being young, of all things. It's not my fault you hate your life. Telling me that i know nothing because of my young (?) age is the most ignorant thing i have heard in a long time.<BR/><BR/>i'm with sarah - disable comments. this is getting ridiculous.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-7479131331321277492007-09-26T17:33:00.000-04:002007-09-26T17:33:00.000-04:00Whoops, should reread before posting, past all of ...Whoops, should reread before posting, past all of the baloney is the correct word I was looking for.Layers of Everythinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11898883853751177188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-8754117702821189222007-09-26T17:32:00.000-04:002007-09-26T17:32:00.000-04:0012.09 for 12.09 (funny coincidence)The husband's c...12.09 for 12.09 (funny coincidence)<BR/><BR/>The husband's confession site has nothing to do with D, at least I do not think so......but it is new and getting up and going so, we all know things start slow. I know (internet wise) who the husband is that began it and it is very good intentioned, he really likes this site and what it can offer passed all the baloney. I do not think it is lame, I think in this case, replication, or some what of replication is a form of flattery.Layers of Everythinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11898883853751177188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-1359426941501204382007-09-26T15:31:00.000-04:002007-09-26T15:31:00.000-04:00Okay..... STOP.... Big Girl back up from the table...Okay..... STOP.... Big Girl back up from the table and skip a meal or two.<BR/>23 year .. shut up... you know nothing. You stupid little ass hasn't lived long enough to know.<BR/>D- go to another site.. queer.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-30179909899233646282007-09-26T15:05:00.000-04:002007-09-26T15:05:00.000-04:00Sarah:I don't care if you cheat -- obviously it's ...Sarah:<BR/><BR/>I don't care if you cheat -- obviously it's wrong, but it seems a trait so inherent in some of you that I'm sure it can't be gotten rid of so easily -- what I'm saying is, own it. Don't create excuses. Don't blame the poor unknowing husband. Don't dredge up every little thing he's done to justify yourself. And don't rush to assure the cheating wives that they've done right without knowing the husbands' side of the tale.<BR/><BR/>MY THOUGHTS EXACTLY! THANKS FOR THIS!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-50499772785450990912007-09-26T15:04:00.000-04:002007-09-26T15:04:00.000-04:00D and Sarah... my thoughts exactly. THANK YOU. :)-...D and Sarah... my thoughts exactly. THANK YOU. :)<BR/><BR/>-CCAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-22972403005907949552007-09-26T13:14:00.000-04:002007-09-26T13:14:00.000-04:00Sarah? Who here consoles cheating wives?Sarah? Who here consoles cheating wives?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-10930142409294059522007-09-26T10:40:00.000-04:002007-09-26T10:40:00.000-04:0010:00 am- well said. At almost 40 years old, marri...10:00 am- well said. At almost 40 years old, married 20+ years, also a career woman, mother of 2, my marriage has been by far, my hardest job ever. At 20, I thought I had life down pat. At 23 I was sure I did. Now I realize I was merely a baby. Since my oldest is close to that age....anyways- very well put. THANK YOU!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-88615372625038476552007-09-26T10:00:00.000-04:002007-09-26T10:00:00.000-04:00Okay, I keep going back to these comments and feel...Okay, I keep going back to these comments and feeling the need to write. <BR/><BR/>To CC, D and other young, single folks:<BR/><BR/> Yes you have a right to your opinion and yes you have a right to post it here. I think that it would just be best to try and think about the other side of the story a little bit. When I was young and 20 something, I thought just like you. If you don't like it, do something about it, get divorced, whatever, but don't cheat. Now, I am unhappy in my marriage a bit, and I've never cheated and don't plan to, however, I think quite a bit differently than I did before I was married and had children and a mortgage, etc. Things are VERY MUCH more complicated than simply "getting a divorce". There are other people to think about other than yourself, there are financial obligations to think about. Obviously there are deal-breakers, but for the most part, marriage is more complicated than I ever thought it would be and unless you've been there, you really don't know what it's like or what you would do. <BR/><BR/>These confessions are generally short and people don't tell you EVERYTHING to base your judgement and opinion on.<BR/><BR/>So, my piece being said, I will not look back at the comments made on this particular subject.<BR/><BR/>I would just hope that everyone who reads this will not attack each other, but try and provide HONEST, non-judgemental suggestions to the person who pours their heart out as an outlet. It certainly doesn't help to attack people or suggest that they weren't raped or to discount their pain. Instead, try and help them, or stay out of it.<BR/><BR/>As my mother always said, "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all".<BR/><BR/>Hopefully we can all learn something from these confessions, and try to help those that are in pain. <BR/><BR/>That's just my two cents...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-35781688196723446312007-09-26T01:14:00.000-04:002007-09-26T01:14:00.000-04:00* then it might suggest why the abovementioned hus...* then it might suggest <I>why the</I> abovementioned husbands are neglecting you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-77112352211565027292007-09-26T01:09:00.000-04:002007-09-26T01:09:00.000-04:00In my opinion (have to put this disclaimer don't I...In my opinion (have to put this disclaimer don't I, else I face getting lambasted as someone who speaks in <I>absolutes</I>), as a gender who has long been taught to think of ourselves as the weaker sex, we rush to victimise ourselves. If we cheat on our husbands -- it's because the husband neglected us. If we get bored of our husbands -- it's because he's not romantic enough. If we sleep with another man -- it's because he forced us to. I think it's painfully obvious that half the time, we're trying to justify our actions in the worst way possible.<BR/><BR/>D is one of the more eloquent, logical persons here. Everything he's said to date make perfect sense, and yet he gets criticised and insulted. Have some respect for him, for god's sake. I clearly don't approve when you ladies flock to console the cheating wives, but you don't see me posting childish insults, do you? <BR/><BR/>You guys always use the line, "you're not in my/her situation, you don't know how it's like so shut it" -- true, I'm not married, and won't be for some time yet (I'm 18). But I <I>have</I> been in relationships and they <I>have</I> changed over time, and so I understand how, when you're embroiled in the emotional tussle, it becomes tempting to give up and abandon your 'morals'.<BR/><BR/>I don't care if you cheat -- obviously it's wrong, but it seems a trait so inherent in some of you that I'm sure it can't be gotten rid of so easily -- what I'm saying is, <B>own it</B>. Don't create excuses. Don't blame the poor unknowing husband. Don't dredge up every little thing he's done to justify yourself. And don't rush to assure the cheating wives that they've done right without knowing the husbands' side of the tale.<BR/><BR/>It makes me wonder, sometimes: why are the female commenters here so protective of the ones who've done wrong? Are you leaving a loophole for yourself so that, should you err in future as well, you have some leeway? I appreciate the objective of this website as much as the next woman, but more and more it's become a platform to alleviate guilt.<BR/><BR/>If you ladies are so quick to excuse yourselves from blame and point immature insults at anyone who tries to present an alternative view, then it might suggest abovementioned husbands are neglecting you. As such, since you can't control yourselves in arguments, I vote that comments be disabled. It's clear that vitriol makes up the huge part of comments, and that's something we don't need.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-27914714065729145392007-09-25T23:21:00.000-04:002007-09-25T23:21:00.000-04:00WOW. These comments are getting almost as interes...WOW. These comments are getting almost as interesting as the confessions! I am fairly new to this site and have only commented a few times. I think it is completely immature for someone to call another person ugly names over a difference of opinion. After reading D's comments, I have to agree with him and I'm a woman. He has not attacked anyone except in his own defense. <BR/><BR/>I feel if you don't want criticism from men, esp single men, then don't send your confessions here. The last time I checked, this site accepts both male and female comments regardless of their marital status. <BR/><BR/>There are a ton of us that do not condone ADULTERY... no matter how sad or lonely you get in your marriage. If you are truly that sad, get some help or get out. There is no excuse for an affair, whatsoever. I don't remember saying "for better or for worse...and if worse, I get to cheat on you!" Just think of how you would feel if you found out your husband was screwing around on you because you made him mad/sad/unhappy? I'm sure you appreciate him separating or divorcing you before he started putting his penis and tongue in another woman's hoo haa. Disgusting!<BR/><BR/>I know this site is for women to confess what they can't tell their husbands but everyone can read them and some will not agree with the actions. Commentors have a right to say what they want to, no matter who they are. If the site operator wants to control the comments section, that is up to her. Until then, please stop bashing D. He's free to state his opinions here and I happen to agree with him more often than not. <BR/><BR/>-ZAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-83135306111693359282007-09-25T20:44:00.000-04:002007-09-25T20:44:00.000-04:00CC Are you really saying your single because of th...CC Are you really saying your single because of the women today disgust you? I would think that they would inspired you to live your life like you discribe... with church and prayer. What do the women you abhor have to do with you finding a man you have a lot in common with and marrying him ( obviously, they're out there because you agree with d) and then living up to your own standards? I'm sorry, I just don't understand your logic.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-57947528512341355022007-09-25T20:01:00.000-04:002007-09-25T20:01:00.000-04:004:25 -I dont need to be in a bad relationship for ...4:25 -<BR/><BR/>I dont need to be in a bad relationship for 20 plus years with 3 kids to know there are better ways to go about finding happiness and better outlets for your grief than infidelity.<BR/><BR/>If you're not happy, leave.<BR/><BR/>If you're not happy - do something about it. BESIDES, that is, falling into the bed of another man. <BR/><BR/>It doesn't make me immature to think that is a pathetic response to an unhappy marriage. mm-kk? MUAH!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-35659641170629091592007-09-25T17:19:00.000-04:002007-09-25T17:19:00.000-04:002093-- I have been where your man is, wanting to s...2093-- I have been where your man is, wanting to sleep for a thousand years and avoid life and people. You're right, he is not "handling it." <BR/><BR/>Depression is a sickness. Would he go for 9 months being ill with something that medication would help, but refuse to go to the doctor because he's "handling it"? <BR/><BR/>It's scary to think of admitting that you are depressed or asking for help--but it can happen in baby steps. He doesn't have to dive into the depths of his brain and figure out what all his issues are. He could start by taking some medication to just help him function. If he really is sleeping 16 hours a day, he truly can't sift through all of the things that are making him depressed. <BR/><BR/>Maybe if you expressed it to him like this: Sometimes people injure themselves, say a knee or something, and that knee becomes really inflamed and swollen until it can hardly bend or be walked on. To fix it, physical therapy will be needed, but first the swelling has to be taken away enough for it to be functional. His brain right now is swollen with depression. He might need "therapy" to deal with the root of the problem later, but for right now he just needs to be able to function. He needs to take some anti-inflammatories for his brain--antidepressants that would help him to have more energy and to not feel so completely weighed down. <BR/><BR/>I have been where he is, and let me tell you... I went on a new antidepressant and within 4 days felt like a brand new person. I wasn't totally "healed" but the difference was incredible. <BR/><BR/>Good luck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-67725324819476636602007-09-25T17:01:00.000-04:002007-09-25T17:01:00.000-04:002093I hope he gets on medication for both of your ...2093<BR/>I hope he gets on medication for both of your sakes. I feel very bad for you. But you have to do what you have to do to survive. So, go out on the weekends and try to re-charge your batteries. Good luck to you both.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com