tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post6630496095423237802..comments2023-08-25T09:21:25.015-04:00Comments on True Wife Confessions: True Wife Confessions 259 Exam PrepDawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12920042208198309201noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-36968213647913259752008-07-03T10:09:00.000-04:002008-07-03T10:09:00.000-04:00Didn't we all already have the toothbrush conversa...Didn't we all already have the toothbrush conversation a few months ago -- or is this like a recurring theme on this blog? Maybe we shouldn't change it's name (Fie! I piss on you!)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-9695355104601800272008-07-02T19:27:00.000-04:002008-07-02T19:27:00.000-04:00#2590I have not been here long I just found this s...#2590<BR/>I have not been here long I just found this site and read a few blogs...Anyways I am sorry that your husband wants a divorce.<BR/>Maybe it is for the best as I dont think you pissing on his tooth brush is good..As a matter of fact its bad and can make him very sick ! <BR/>I also think its very sick of you !(my opinion) <BR/>I am again sorry for your divorce but I think HE will be better off and you really need someone that maybe dont have you so upset that you go pissing on toothbrushes (you think )?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-23793988757265768992008-06-27T17:41:00.000-04:002008-06-27T17:41:00.000-04:002589 - My father is not in my life, and I understa...2589 - My father is not in my life, and I understand your pain. I am 27 now. I haven't seen my dad since I was 13 and have not had any contact with him since I was 20 (his choice, not mine). I'm a married woman now with her own successful life, but reconciling the fact that my father truly does not love me has been the hardest thing I have ever had to do. It is a wound that I'm not sure ever heals. It may scab over, but the scar tissue is always there, and it has shaped the person that I have grown up to be. If anyone has successfully healed the wound of being abandoned by a parent (and not counting the happy ending of being reunited), I'd love to hear their story.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-82227565861520438742008-06-27T14:51:00.000-04:002008-06-27T14:51:00.000-04:002590 - ROFL... OMG, I have truly thought of doing ...2590 - ROFL... OMG, I have truly thought of doing that but never have. Thanks for the laugh today!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-29698387702609268702008-06-27T14:42:00.000-04:002008-06-27T14:42:00.000-04:002581 - Take it from a girl who is on her 3rd marri...2581 - Take it from a girl who is on her 3rd marriage. Love is many things to many different people. And yes, there will be hard times and easy times. But if all you have are unhappy times, its time to move on. For me, my 1st was a mistake, clear and simple. He didnt love me. The 2nd, also a mistake. I was 24 and had a 2yr old, he was 10years older with kids. Um, yea, not a good thing fo rme. This one has had really hard times but when it came down to put up or get out, he fought for us. And at the end of the day, for me, love is knowing that I have him with me. And there is no one I'd rather be with or see than him. This is 6.5 years into the marriage. So my bottom line to you is - if you dont find yourself wanting to see him and be with him at the end of the day, move on. Best of luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-89863132856795157262008-06-27T13:21:00.000-04:002008-06-27T13:21:00.000-04:002590, maybe that is something you just need to kee...2590, maybe that is something you just need to keep to yourself.I'll never tellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16076691784073948166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-53700006802099438572008-06-26T23:06:00.000-04:002008-06-26T23:06:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Tamarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14838143062672077331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-62823336349700233372008-06-26T13:57:00.000-04:002008-06-26T13:57:00.000-04:002581-My grandparents were married for 53years, and...2581-<BR/>My grandparents were married for 53years, and my parents just made their 30th anniversary. I know for sure that my mom was a much better wife to my father than he was as a husband to her. I used to wonder why she didn't leave him, but she said she loved him and made a commitment to him, and that was that. My grandparents, however, seemed happier and much more loving, even though I witnessed times when they seemed to want to strangle each other. But I could see that both love and commitment were there. Now I have been with my husband for over three years and we have a 2-year old daughter. He was the first boyfriend I ever had, and the first and only person I have ever slept with. Sometimes I wonder if "the grass is greener" somewhere else, if I just "jumped the gun" with the first man I ever fell in love with. I love him, but it is not the same kind of love as it was three years ago. Back then it was new, thrilling, wild, passionate, exciting love. The newness and some of the passion have faded, but the love is more solid. Don't get me wrong - I'm not living in happy-go-lucky, perfect world, la-la-land. My husband has a drinking problem, and he has some serious baggage from previous relationships of his. There are times when he seriously pisses me off, times when I feel sad and depressed. I often feel that I put more effort into our family life than he does. Our relationship is far from perfect. But I am not "unhappy". And there are times when I am extremely happy. But the most important thing to me is that I know that he loves me and we are both committed to each other and to our daughter. I think that that sounds very boring and like I am "settling" for less than the perfect/passionate/exciting marriage, but I don't think there is such a thing. Maybe in the beginning, but all that always wears off. It's the commitment and true love, no matter what, that is the test of your relationship. I have girlfriends who always bail out when it gets to that point, when the passion starts to fade. Then they just wait until they "fall in love" again, and a year or two later, they are back at square one. I don't believe in fairy tales. I guess you just have to decide what you are willing to live with, and if you honestly LOVE your husband enough, and are commmitted enough to him that you can spend the rest of your life with him and be content. I hope you don't take this as "preachy" or anything, I just wanted to share my personal story. I hope that you work it out and find what you are looking for. Best of luck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-82905483833865185612008-06-26T10:03:00.000-04:002008-06-26T10:03:00.000-04:00You're an amazing person.You're an amazing person.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-41583695372883007062008-06-26T01:40:00.000-04:002008-06-26T01:40:00.000-04:002589 - I understand what you feel. I have a fathe...2589 - I understand what you feel. I have a father that up until a year ago i haven't seen or spoken to in 16 years. A year ago i had a private investigator contact me and found out that my father was looking for me. I agreed to meet him and we chatted over a couple of drinks. After asking questions and getting more info i found out that he won a contest to a radio station. The woman who he is now with sent in a letter to the private investigator that was on the radio and they were picked. I can only think that if they didn't win i would've never been found. It's not like he would've paid for one. I mean come on, he's had 16 years to pay for one but instead his wife sends a letter in to some raido station!?!? Is he kidding!?!? In the past year i've seen him 3 times. They're not comfortable visits. The last time i saw him he made a comment that i don't keep intouch with him. Not for nothing, but you came looking for me. Not the other way around. Just as i'm about to leave he tells me "listen, i know alot of years have gone by and i only know you a the little girl and not a woman. I know nothing about you. If you want to keep intouch that's fine but i've been living my life and doing well for myself. It's no skin off my back if we don't keep intouch. We haven't for all these years." Is he serious!?!? With a comment like that, he can go to hell! It's more like i've done without him all these years and it's no skin off mine!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-78141397173261561922008-06-25T17:49:00.000-04:002008-06-25T17:49:00.000-04:002581 - Try going to this website, http://dailystre...2581 - Try going to this website, http://dailystrength.org/ It is full of support groups with people who will listen and give advice. I was in the breakups and divorce group and I have to say the advice I got was exactly what I needed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-64484155217617607262008-06-25T13:51:00.000-04:002008-06-25T13:51:00.000-04:002588. Nope, sorry. You aren't that different from ...2588. Nope, sorry. You aren't that different from the rest of us because it's all about being the human animal here. <BR/><BR/>You're not better. But the good news is you aren't any worse, either.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-53270984605877211662008-06-25T13:23:00.000-04:002008-06-25T13:23:00.000-04:002588 - Well said. Successful marriage takes two u...2588 - Well said. Successful marriage takes two unselfish people always willing to put the spouse/marriage before their own desires. One or both satisfying the selfish wants of the other to 'make them smile' is not the way to happiness. There is often a need for lots of patience, love, longsuffering, and hope.<BR/><BR/>2589 - I feel your pain, and hope that one day God will show you how to heal that wound. I never had (and still don't have) the love of my father, and do not know why. I've grown and have long since stopped searching for the reason, but the difference is that my parents are still married. I don't know which hell is worse, having your parent leave and taking their love with them or having them around all the time, standing right next to you even, and knowing that there is no love for you (yet plenty for other siblings) and worse yet, no explanation. That wound is deep, and I like to think that I am finally making progress in healing it as I love and nurture my own childrenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-43215674346515106922008-06-25T06:38:00.000-04:002008-06-25T06:38:00.000-04:00HI 2588 I, too, think some of the posts are ove...HI 2588 I, too, think some of the posts are over the top and wonder"whoa"! I say things here to get it off my chest. I may not be over the top but they are my thoughts and things I want to get off my chest and not start a fight. BUT I do talk to my hubby about how I don't want his family to our house. He needs to step up to them, not me. He does have ADD and we discuss it at length and will be going to therapy. Women come here to get it off their chests not to be jerks. In my opinion.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-57585402172467995262008-06-25T02:02:00.000-04:002008-06-25T02:02:00.000-04:00This is to Confession #2581. You want someone to ...This is to Confession #2581. You want someone to maybe talk to or "bounce things off of". Well, you can try me. I've often asked myself and others what is love. I've basically gotten the same answer and response. When the other persons happiness makes you happy and you want to do things that make that person happy. And when just being with that person makes YOU happy. I guess that sounds about right considering that i've dated plenty and been in a relationship with a few and i've only felt that way about 2 people. The first didn't work out i guess because we were really young. We went back to eachother a few times but it was just beating a dead horse. The second relationship that i've felt that way is current. I've been with him now for 3 years. And though i feel i go out of my way to make him happy and when i see him smile i feel good about myself, i think sometimes i can't stand him. So is that love? I constantly hear from people how they think we're so good for eachother. My family likes him and his family likes me. His father introduces me to people as his daughter in law!!! We live together and "play house" but marriage is not even a thought in either one of our heads. But is love that most days i want to be around him and he makes me laugh and he takes care of me and then other days i look at him and just want to smack him upside the head? Am i simply incapable of just always being happy? I feel that maybe i'm never satisfied. I just asked him tonight if i made him crazy. (I have no idea why i even opened my mouth) He said "yea sometimes". Does he feel the same way about me that i do him? Happy most of the time but other days we could kill eachother? So is that it? Being with someone you can stand to be around most of the time and not hating them? I know i'm kind of just ranting but please bare with me. I've been talking with my girlfriend about this too. She is in a similar situation. The question i have for her and myself is this is only 3 years into a relationship and i'm not even married. How am i going to feel 5 or maybe even 10 years from now? Will i be able to stand to be around the same person for that long?? Oh and might i add i haven't exactly had the greatest relationship role model in my life eiter. My mother was on and off with my father when i was very young and then she dated a bit for a few years till i was 13. She was introduced to a man and they married when i was 15. They are still together years later and had a child together but i feel that she settled. I guess they seem happy with the house and cars and my sister but i feel they keep themsleves so occupied with other things so they're not with eachother alone for too long. So, i certainly wouldn't turn to her for any relationship advice. If anyone wants to comment or give advice please do. Again, i know i've raved on and on and maybe don't really make any sense but it is 2am so forgive me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com