tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post5635623962796556614..comments2023-08-25T09:21:25.015-04:00Comments on True Wife Confessions: True Wife Confession 167 Prime CuriositiesDawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12920042208198309201noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-74125232654913853372007-04-23T10:38:00.000-04:002007-04-23T10:38:00.000-04:00I'm trying to revive the true husband confessions ...I'm trying to revive the true husband confessions site, not too much going on yet, but if I build it, someone will come :)John Deauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11382610435580938230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-3757917611247804272007-04-06T18:49:00.000-04:002007-04-06T18:49:00.000-04:00Dawn should make a "husband confession" site, or m...Dawn should make a "husband confession" site, or maybe just a day in this one. <BR/><BR/>Umm, 1670's story, penthouse or not kinda ruled. ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-67433187593750515702007-03-22T09:50:00.000-04:002007-03-22T09:50:00.000-04:001662, you slay me! I know exactly what you mean a...1662, you slay me! I know exactly what you mean about the helplessness. What I do is save up all his requests and number how many times during the day I'm required to "hop up" and do X. Then, once I've settled down for the evening, I proceed to ask him to: hop up and get me a glass of water, take my water down to the kitchen when I'm down, lower the room temperature, raise the room temperature, get me a blanket, etc. etc. etc. And when he objects, I list all the errands he's asked me to do that day. Strange, I'm not asked to "hop up" and bring him something nearly so much anymore . .Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-51225539257123592862007-03-20T13:48:00.000-04:002007-03-20T13:48:00.000-04:00That was my point. Men didn't want to get their a...That was my point. Men didn't want to get their ass chewed, so they didn't bother submitting anything in.<BR/><BR/>That and the fact that alot of men don't feel the need to use a forum to vent.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-16742966382473286542007-03-20T13:35:00.000-04:002007-03-20T13:35:00.000-04:00THC and TKC failed because there weren't enough co...THC and TKC failed because there weren't enough confessions. Yhey lacked th eability to pull an audience, which Dawn does so well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-63023126540981607032007-03-19T16:34:00.000-04:002007-03-19T16:34:00.000-04:00I just went back and looked and you are right, mos...I just went back and looked and you are right, most of them, if not all, are tame. I had not been back there in ages. The last time I was there there were three confession in a row that were picked apart and blasted and one of the guys actually commented back saying that he felt more alone in his feelings and felt bad all over again. I wasn't not able to find those confessions so they may have been deleted (when she re-vamped the site) or I may be crazy - been known to happen.<BR/><BR/>And I do take back the generalizing in my post previously. I'm sure that there are a bunch of reasons why the site didn't work out (it seems that Spam was one of the major ones). I think I was just trying to make the point that I noticed a different tone over there then I did at the time over here. Even we get snippy with eachother here sometimes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-37662837894455281132007-03-19T16:20:00.000-04:002007-03-19T16:20:00.000-04:00It got abandoned because any confession a guy left...<I>It got abandoned because any confession a guy left, he would would get blasted about feeling the way he was feeling.</I><BR/><BR/>Are we talking about the same thing? I went back and perused the comments on the old truehusbandconfessions.blogspot site, and they seem pretty tame, unless they were all edited.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-74140977841794356922007-03-19T14:45:00.000-04:002007-03-19T14:45:00.000-04:00"Sadly, the person who originally took a stab at T..."Sadly, the person who originally took a stab at True Husband Confessions seems to have abandoned it."<BR/><BR/>It got abandoned because any confession a guy left, he would would get blasted about feeling the way he was feeling. There were only a few that didn't get passed off as an being from a guy that "had no balls", "was a bitter angry guy" or "insensitive jerk"<BR/><BR/>Whether the comments were written by women or his fellow man, it must have felt like a waste of time for the person running the site and the men confessing to it.<BR/><BR/>I know that on this site, women are blasted sometimes and praised other times, but it had a comepletely differnt undertone there.<BR/><BR/>(BTW - There used to also be a True Mom Confesions, and a Tru Kid Confession - the later being almost heartbreaking to read sometimes)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-26160620893932405522007-03-16T18:57:00.000-04:002007-03-16T18:57:00.000-04:00To 1661 and to 1663..I am 1665 and it would also b...To 1661 and to 1663..<BR/>I am 1665 and it would also be a relief to me if my husband wanted a divorce. I am sure I would cry a bit ,too, but I would bounce back. I actually think that he tries to drive me crazy, purposely doing obnoxious things, simply so that I will be the one to leave and he can walk away being "the one who tried".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-48414364791403836512007-03-16T15:44:00.000-04:002007-03-16T15:44:00.000-04:001670- Way TMI...I totally agree with the folks tel...1670- Way TMI...I totally agree with the folks telling you to save it for Penthouse or Hussler.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-71847924975407942312007-03-16T12:32:00.000-04:002007-03-16T12:32:00.000-04:001666 - I'm married to this guy. It took me four ye...1666 - I'm married to this guy. It took me four years to get him to go to the dentist. Three years to get him to the doctor's to sort out the rosacea on his face. I'm still working on his toenails and shaving habits. And there's no way on earth I'd go down on him.<BR/><BR/>I haven't got any credit for doing this stuff for him. I'm not sure why I bothered in the first place - there must be a reason, if only I could find out what it is!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-30820699555133220062007-03-15T22:57:00.000-04:002007-03-15T22:57:00.000-04:00I disagree w/ 1:28 pm. It's really easy to go fro...I disagree w/ 1:28 pm. It's really easy to go from a fat slob to a big-fat narcisist. As a grown-up, you have to put your family first. Yes, staying healthy and exercising is important, but 1664 gets to pick up all the slack while her DH gets to take care of him him him. It's exhausting.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-23236597812496140832007-03-15T13:28:00.000-04:002007-03-15T13:28:00.000-04:001664--Wow, are you jealous or what? As someone wh...1664--Wow, are you jealous or what? As someone who knows about weight loss I know that you have to put yourself first in order to take care of yourself. Also, he's asking for your loving opinion on how he looks. Funny how men need approval too. Aren't you glad he's asking you how he looks instead of the cute hot chick at his work? Sound like your the selfish one. If your not first no one can be. Hmm.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-72571053542261396112007-03-15T09:03:00.000-04:002007-03-15T09:03:00.000-04:00#1662, maybe decide what you can live with and wha...#1662, maybe decide what you can live with and what you can't, and focus on fixing the stuff you can't live with? But I have to say...from your entry, it seems to me that there's at least SOME room for you to pare down your workload without worsening the appearance of your house. If your husband isn't going to do any tasks for you, why do any for him (i.e. picking up those vitamins)?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-34596504208788902212007-03-15T07:05:00.000-04:002007-03-15T07:05:00.000-04:00#1662 here again, thank you all for responding. I...#1662 here again, thank you all for responding. I guess I either need to get over my need to have everything nice or do it all and quit bitching. I have heard the term over-functioning before, so you were right on target. I will try your suggestions and see what happens. Most days my life is just busy, some days it is crazy and those are the days I wish someone would pick up the slack, I will try to just let it slack and not worry about it. Thanks again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-26793061306393043432007-03-14T15:28:00.000-04:002007-03-14T15:28:00.000-04:00#1662, this will sound bitchy, but is meant to be ...#1662, this will sound bitchy, but is meant to be helpful, I promise.<BR/><BR/>Why are you picking up *his* vitamins?<BR/><BR/>When he tells you the shredder needed emptying, why don't you say, "Then empty it. The bags are in X location." ?<BR/><BR/>When he tells you that he forgot to go to the dry cleaners, why not hand him the car keys and say, "They close at 7 pm. Better hurry."?<BR/><BR/>You're right in that you'll probably never get your family to care as much as you do about dishes in the sink...but if it's that much of a problem, why not just use paper plates and disposable silverware? Yes, yes, it costs money...but your sanity is important too.<BR/><BR/>I'm being this specific because I think that, for a lot of women, it's easier to just go ahead and do things rather than identifying occasions for others to do them. Which is fine if you're okay with doing all of the work...but you, specifically, are clearly not. Time for your husband to get his own vitamins, methinks...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-42451895822281809532007-03-14T13:36:00.000-04:002007-03-14T13:36:00.000-04:00#1662, you should focus on the fact that he is mak...#1662, you should focus on the fact that he is making you feel taken for granted, and adding to your stress. He may not care about dishes in the sink or ordering take-out instead of cooking, but he damn well SHOULD care that he is making his wife's life harder. That's what I said to my husband, and it worked for me. Good luck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-21294860483282472512007-03-14T10:27:00.000-04:002007-03-14T10:27:00.000-04:001662.. my friends call this over-functioning. i ...1662.. my friends call this over-functioning. i go on strike occasionally- it only works if you can stand the mess.<BR/><BR/>1667...you sound fake. hopefully i am wrong.<BR/><BR/>1670..TMIAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-41842107277897687472007-03-14T08:43:00.000-04:002007-03-14T08:43:00.000-04:00#1662I had some serious success when I used Flylad...#1662<BR/><BR/>I had some serious success when I used Flylady techniques. Everything has a day in which you worry about it, so you aren't sweating things out on the inappropriate day. Honestly, my to do list was HUGE until I started this and now, not so much.<BR/><BR/>Good Luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-45751576500495302842007-03-14T08:09:00.000-04:002007-03-14T08:09:00.000-04:00I'm #1662 - you are right, no one is forcing me to...I'm #1662 - you are right, no one is forcing me to do everything. It seems I'm the only one who is bothered by 2 days worth of dishes in the sink, or piles of trash in the bedroom. It would be easy to say, no, but then nothing gets done. I don't want to be sitting down to dinner at 9pm at night, and I don't want to order in everynight. So what do I do? Let things fall apart? I guess my dilema is that it doesn't seem to bother anyone else in the house - but I cannot live that way. I am honestly asking.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-75012597092256839002007-03-14T00:55:00.000-04:002007-03-14T00:55:00.000-04:001662. Why are you doing what he asks? Stop it. Jus...1662. Why are you doing what he asks? Stop it. Just stop it. You have a choice about whether to do it or not. He's not holding a gun to your head, is he? Apparently it's easier for you to do it for him than to let him do it himself or go without.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-25892859429429181852007-03-14T00:34:00.000-04:002007-03-14T00:34:00.000-04:001661, I'm 1663 - I wish my husband would do that t...1661, I'm 1663 - I wish my husband would do that too, it would be a huge relief. Still very sad, and honestly, I'd cry over it for a while but in the end I'd be relieved to have my own life again.<BR/><BR/>12:12 - good for you for knowing yourself well enough to make you're own way. I wish that I'd recognized completely how I shouldn't marry. I've painted myself into a corner, it's no fun at all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-83354776533694494782007-03-13T22:23:00.000-04:002007-03-13T22:23:00.000-04:00#1662 - You're enabling these men/children to cont...#1662 - You're enabling these men/children to continue with their lazy ways. Why did you empty the shredder? Stop doing everything and they will stop expecting it. Just try it for awhile: it just might work. And good luck! Doing it all without any appreciation sucks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-60381623567566496472007-03-13T20:33:00.000-04:002007-03-13T20:33:00.000-04:00I'm going 70-30 odds that 4:31 is actually a dude....I'm going 70-30 odds that 4:31 is actually a dude.<BR/><BR/>Sadly, the person who originally took a stab at True Husband Confessions seems to have abandoned it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-79884260232542851722007-03-13T18:36:00.000-04:002007-03-13T18:36:00.000-04:001670-bleh. And as far as you've already gone...ye...1670-bleh. And as far as you've already gone...yeah I don't see a CONSCIENCE there at all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com