tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post5395241962603023010..comments2023-08-25T09:21:25.015-04:00Comments on True Wife Confessions: True Wife Confessions 282 rose petalsDawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12920042208198309201noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-51742972327284177192009-09-16T17:32:01.079-04:002009-09-16T17:32:01.079-04:00#2815: Tell him you go to counseling together, or ...#2815: Tell him you go to counseling together, or you’ll find someone who WILL sleep with you. This isn’t right – although it is fairly common.<br /><br />#2817: Leave. You can’t fix this guy. He keeps you dancing because what he really enjoys is CONTROLLING YOU. You try EVERYTHING to entertain him, you can’t do anything on your own OR with him. Leave, leave, leave.<br /><br />#2818: And did he plan this child with you? Or was it an accident? Or an “accident”?Stitchinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-64628440768707270592009-09-16T17:24:46.522-04:002009-09-16T17:24:46.522-04:00#2811: OMG, WHY ARE YOU PLANNING ON HAVING CHILDRE...#2811: OMG, WHY ARE YOU PLANNING ON HAVING CHILDREN WITH THIS DOUCHEBAG??? He's complaining when there's nothing to complain about! And you think having CHILDREN with him is a good idea? Lady, you already HAVE a child! You just don't have stretch marks from it! Believe me, having a child won't help the marriage - but it may very well kill off that happy-go-lucky artist. It isn't going to make him any nicer to YOU. Run, run, RUN!!!Stitchinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-10294553845778684612009-02-20T15:11:00.000-05:002009-02-20T15:11:00.000-05:00Anon 1:45: Have you ever tried to have a calm, rat...Anon 1:45: Have you ever tried to have a calm, rational discussion with someone who will NOT listen to anything you say, and will turn the conversation around to everything you are supposidly doing wrong? And then tells you that if you change how YOU act, then it will be a non issue? And you changing how you act, only to have the same behavior repeated?<BR/><BR/>I just found this site today, and I applaud it. I can't wait to submit something. I have alot to get off my chest.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-41962834456154754712009-02-19T17:14:00.000-05:002009-02-19T17:14:00.000-05:00To the person who says we should be talking to our...To the person who says we should be talking to our spouses instead of posting here: You are really missing the point of this site. You know how a frazzled mother of three might step outside for a minute and stamp her feet and say grrrrrrrrrr when the kids are acting out? But she goes back inside and handles her children with love and sensible discipline? This site is, for many of us, the place to stamp our feet about our husbands (and no, I don't mean they are just like children). It is so important for one's emotional and physical health to be able to just feel our feelings fully and release them. And, it is part of a respectful marriage not to always use our partners to process our negative feelings -- that is called abuse. So I post here once in a while. Or write in a journal. Or go for a run. I get perspective. Yes, I do show my husband my anger now and then. And, yes, I talk to my husband. Lovingly, constructively, genuinely. He is marvelous and we get closer and stronger every time we work through an awkward or rough patch. We're very in love, and I'm not angry very often. But yes, I post here.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-72464816376763273462009-02-19T14:19:00.000-05:002009-02-19T14:19:00.000-05:00Dawn, I am sure what I am about to say will not be...Dawn, I am sure what I am about to say will not be posted since it is quite abusive, but I am happy for just you to see it: Anon 1:45 a.m., shove your "legit" opinion up your ass. Preferably without lube. <BR/>Dawn, I love your site, it has helped me and I know many others, I will keep coming back to read, and thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-87798109057452930012009-02-19T13:16:00.000-05:002009-02-19T13:16:00.000-05:00Anonymous 1:45 AM: Your opinion may be legitimate...Anonymous 1:45 AM: Your opinion may be legitimate for you, but it's definitely not for everyone else. I've spent 32 years talking to and compromising with a spouse who continues to repeat behaviors no matter how many times they have been discussed (and yes, that's discussed, as in two adults sitting down and having a conversation, not an argument). <BR/><BR/>I'm tired of compromising. I'm tired of modeling behaviors in an attempt to show someone else how one should behave. There has to be a desire on the other person's behalf to change. It's my feeling that when a person continues to do things that they know are upsetting to their spouse, basically they're just saying "screw you - I don't give a damn about you or what makes you happy."<BR/><BR/>Your post is condescending and and somewhat ignorant Anonymous 1:45. Unless you've walked miles in another woman's moccasins, you have no clue as to what works and doesn't work in her relationship or marriage. <BR/><BR/>Perhaps instead of telling others what they should do, you could give examples of the positive way you deal with problems in your own relationship. That's what grown-up, mature women do - they help one another out with ideas and care, rather than derision.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-40855071980836350112009-02-19T12:42:00.000-05:002009-02-19T12:42:00.000-05:00I know 2815 - right? I love it when there is an as...I know 2815 - right? I love it when there is an assumption that none of us are talking to our significant others.<BR/><BR/>After nearly 20 years together, I still say some things to my husband and he looks at me as if it is the first time I have ever mentioned it....<BR/><BR/>Its rarely an issue of NOT saying it - but rather of saying and saying and saying - and simply not being heard.<BR/><BR/>I love those who pop in with these suggestions - as if none of us ever thought of them, or tried them for the past decade....Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12920042208198309201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-30142790054430925202009-02-19T11:48:00.000-05:002009-02-19T11:48:00.000-05:00#2815 here. I HAVE talked to my spouse about it. H...#2815 here. I HAVE talked to my spouse about it. He laughs it off or acts like I'm crazy. Any pearls of wisdom now?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-74236197381991064462009-02-19T01:45:00.000-05:002009-02-19T01:45:00.000-05:00#2812 - Maybe, y'know, talking to him about it...#2812 - <BR/><BR/>Maybe, y'know, talking to him about it may help.<BR/><BR/>Actually to EVERY WOMAN who posts on this site.....maybe talking to him might help! <BR/><BR/>I only say this because, well, because COMMUNICATION in a MARRIAGE between TWO HUMAN BEINGS is kind of critical.<BR/><BR/>And when I say "talk to", I don't mean scream, yell, accuse, and blame. I mean discuss your feelings and why you feel a certain way..NEVER be even remotely accusational (even if it is something that is his fault), it will just cause an argument. Once a conversation reaches "argument" mode, there are no winners. Zero. <BR/><BR/>COMMUNICATE & COMPROMISE<BR/><BR/>Do NOT post on this site and keep all your feelings hidden, hiding them makes things worse. <BR/><BR/>And now that I've reached the end of my comment, I realize that it will probably never get posted because I am basically telling the owner of this site that her confessors shouldn't even be visiting this site. They shouldn't. You may think this is a good outlet, and for some minor things it probably is. But the vast majority of these posts that I've seen are very serious and can't be ignored. These big time problems will not be solved by letting strangers anonymously know. Marriage is between TWO ADULTS TOGETHER AS ONE....not 1 man, 1 woman, and anonymous internet viewers.<BR/><BR/>Please let this comment go through, you may not agree with it, but this is a very legit opinion.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-51352468075937801462009-02-18T21:57:00.000-05:002009-02-18T21:57:00.000-05:00I agree about the negative spouse. It is suffocat...I agree about the negative spouse. It is suffocating. We keep re-hashing this issue and I fear that we always will. Negative/Critical and borderling controlling spouse....very hard to live with. If I didn't have kids, I'd be gone by now. Good Luck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-59641017691516786232009-02-18T00:48:00.000-05:002009-02-18T00:48:00.000-05:002817 - I am married to a very negative man also. H...2817 - I am married to a very negative man also. He never has a good or positive thing to say about anything. No matter what I say, or what I tell him about the kids that day, he will find some way to make a negative comment abou it. I wish I had some advice for you, but I don't...well, except for this: If you don't have any kids, get out. He's going to be dragging you down for the rest of your life if you don't. Just know that I empathize with you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com