tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post4883533264942506645..comments2023-08-25T09:21:25.015-04:00Comments on True Wife Confessions: True Wife Confessions 211 Steel ReserveDawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12920042208198309201noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-3184661949303376712007-11-08T20:01:00.000-05:002007-11-08T20:01:00.000-05:002103: Ooo.. that last comment of 'they run their ...2103: Ooo.. that last comment of 'they run their fucking mouths and don't know when to shut the fuck up.' .....My fiance says that too. <BR/><BR/>Or, the part about wanting to punch me in the mouth...<BR/><BR/>He says that too.<BR/><BR/>He has a NASTY NASTY temper, he has never once tried to physically hurt me, but it still hurts me more than words can say that he can say those things TO ME, AND not appologize. <BR/><BR/>His parents always told him that he better straighten out his temper, or I'll be gone. <BR/><BR/>I'm not married yet....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-73025945773008058282007-10-03T14:03:00.000-04:002007-10-03T14:03:00.000-04:00some many of my married friends (I'm 26 if that ma...some many of my married friends (I'm 26 if that makes a difference) got married to simply get married. They felt the age of 25 coming on too quickly and the feelings of "needing" to have children before 30 and so they threatened their way into marriage and many of them are very unhappy. They, of course, love thier children - but would do it over if they could. <BR/><BR/>While I understand loving someone and wanting to have their kids and wanting to start your life with them, shouldn't that all be done when BOTH people are ready?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-36105251712786659492007-10-03T03:45:00.000-04:002007-10-03T03:45:00.000-04:00re: Anonymous said...Leaving isnt always that ea...re: <BR/><BR/><I>Anonymous said...<BR/><BR/>Leaving isnt always that easy DUDE<BR/><BR/> 10:17 AM</I><BR/><BR/>i never said it was easy! but then again, neither is staying and having someone rip your heart out, day after day...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-68453164615033519362007-10-02T20:16:00.000-04:002007-10-02T20:16:00.000-04:00I can see 4:41's point. She never really said why...I can see 4:41's point. She never really said why she wanted to marry him, just that she wanted to get married after four years of dating as though there's an expiration date to their relationship. <BR/><BR/>These are the types of relationships (you know, "we need to get married or I'm leaving" ultimatum) I have personally witnessed marrying and ending in divorce. They get so wrapped up in planning their wedding for about a year only to ask for a good divorce attorney shortly thereafter.<BR/><BR/>Expectations.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-12660111549807188042007-10-02T19:31:00.000-04:002007-10-02T19:31:00.000-04:0012:55 that is awesome advice.4:41 she isnt having ...12:55 that is awesome advice.<BR/>4:41 she isnt having mood swings to have mood swings, she is emotional about the situation, why does she want to marry the guy? Obviously she loves him?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-21457574153606279692007-10-02T16:41:00.000-04:002007-10-02T16:41:00.000-04:00To 2101, why do you want to marry THIS guy? Isn't...To 2101, why do you want to marry THIS guy? Isn't it saying something when you are happy one minute, then angry and depressed the next? Do you think getting married to this guy will change your mood swings?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-26041752637235168892007-10-02T14:20:00.000-04:002007-10-02T14:20:00.000-04:0012:55, you made perfect sense, and it's great advi...12:55, you made perfect sense, and it's great advice.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-83905330952347930462007-10-02T12:55:00.000-04:002007-10-02T12:55:00.000-04:00It's really hard to not take it personally when yo...It's really hard to not take it personally when you realize that you are ready to get married and your partner isn't. And it's usually not personal, or having anything to do with their feelings for you.<BR/>It's a huge step, which some find scary regardless of the person that they would make that big step with. There's also the thought that once the marriage begins, that things will change. <BR/>My mom gave me the best advice and that was to marry the person as they are at that exact moment. Plenty of things changes, but all those annoying habits and not-so-flattering vices usually don't - so don't go into the marriage expecting your partner to all of a sudden stop smoking or stop complaining or start cleaning the house more. But also understand that the things that do change over the years are the things that will test a marriage and make or break it. <BR/><BR/>I can't write that to really amke sense, so sorry. haha.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-46136145292160730112007-10-02T01:05:00.000-04:002007-10-02T01:05:00.000-04:00:D This is the most productive comment section I h...:D This is the most productive comment section I have read in a long time. All of your responses are valid and make sense. It really does depend on what the person wants and needs in their lives.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-77052954616109385802007-10-01T15:07:00.000-04:002007-10-01T15:07:00.000-04:00I agree with you 2:25 maybe she feels fulfilled in...I agree with you 2:25 maybe she feels fulfilled in the relationship but wants to share their love in a marriage and with children. Life is about moving from place(steps) no one wants to stay stuck in place forever.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-52232508495858951752007-10-01T14:25:00.000-04:002007-10-01T14:25:00.000-04:00I think it depends on your own personal goals and ...I think it depends on your own personal goals and what's important to you individually. I'm really happy at my mid-level government job, and if I stay in this position forever, I'll be just fine. My brother, on the other hand, has always wanted to run something, and if he had to be a "mid-level" employee for ever he'd feel horribly unfulfilled and as though he was wasting his time and talent. Different people need different things to feel happy. And that's ok.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-58707121583531314462007-10-01T13:07:00.000-04:002007-10-01T13:07:00.000-04:00Maybe it's that I have way too many friends who le...Maybe it's that I have way too many friends who left the guy they were with because they felt they were wasting time and in turn, found a guy they liked, got married, had kids and really aren't happy and still regret leaving the first guy. <BR/><BR/>When did getting married become more about the status and less about the person you spend the rest of your life with?<BR/><BR/>I totally understand having that feeling of "when is my life going to start?", but its shouldn't only start when one gets married or has babies. That sure gives someone another reason to enjoy life, but it shouldn't be the only reason.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-43692086651195371512007-10-01T10:17:00.000-04:002007-10-01T10:17:00.000-04:00It is wasting time after four years when you want ...It is wasting time after four years when you want to get married and have his children and a house and a life together not just DATING for the rest of our lives. When you are ready for marriage and he isn't, it feels like you are wasting time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-37881647932365581232007-10-01T09:55:00.000-04:002007-10-01T09:55:00.000-04:00For some people, dating is all they're looking for...For some people, dating is all they're looking for. But other people see dating as a path towards marriage. For people in the second group, dating someone they love for a prolonged period of time, when that person has no desire to marry them is a "waste of time."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-10340842764863168202007-09-30T20:54:00.000-04:002007-09-30T20:54:00.000-04:00I'm 2:15am.I don't think it's wasting time, if you...I'm 2:15am.<BR/>I don't think it's wasting time, if you're with the one you love then it's all worth it... even if the end result isn't the one you want. <BR/><BR/>2101 said she didn't want to waste the next 4 years. So if she thinks she's wasting her time now or will be wasting the next 4 years then she should bow out now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-27329911310608448592007-09-30T17:33:00.000-04:002007-09-30T17:33:00.000-04:001:22 - O my RELAX...1:22 - O my RELAX...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-55554676932403856482007-09-30T16:51:00.000-04:002007-09-30T16:51:00.000-04:00How is it wasting your time if you are with the on...How is it wasting your time if you are with the one you love? If both of you are devoted and loyal to eachother, then how can that be "wasting" time?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-35040841351454521792007-09-30T02:15:00.000-04:002007-09-30T02:15:00.000-04:002101:I was you 5 years ago. Now we're going on 9 y...2101:<BR/>I was you 5 years ago. Now we're going on 9 years with no proposal. I love him and he loves me... <BR/><BR/>but?<BR/><BR/><BR/>if you think you'll be wasting 4 more years waiting then you should leave now. It only gets harder as time goes on.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-46292412514762206222007-09-28T19:29:00.000-04:002007-09-28T19:29:00.000-04:002101 Saying "I hate you" and "I want to be your wi...2101 Saying "I hate you" and "I want to be your wife" in the same sentence is a little bit suspect. And I don't think a 4 year courtship is so bad. But only you can know whether it's worth waiting for, or if a proposal is even coming. I wish you good luck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-92135221899981315712007-09-28T17:49:00.000-04:002007-09-28T17:49:00.000-04:008:58, 2104 here, and all I can say is he does have...8:58, 2104 here, and all I can say is he does have an ex wife. Maybe that shoudl ahve told me something abou thim from the get go!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-9335133739612349612007-09-28T14:02:00.000-04:002007-09-28T14:02:00.000-04:001:22 Back up Sweetie Pie---Last night, yes just la...1:22 Back up Sweetie Pie---<BR/>Last night, yes just last night my husband asked me if I was asleep. I started laughing remembering what<BR/>2106 had said to her ol' man and I said the same thing.....He started laughing.... sometimes it's all in the way you look at things.... so chill 1:22.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-7853833808963109502007-09-28T13:59:00.000-04:002007-09-28T13:59:00.000-04:002101 - I had your thoughts when I had hit the 4 yr...2101 - I had your thoughts when I had hit the 4 yr mark with my guy but I didn't want to be the girl who gave the ultimatum. I wanted him to WANT to marry me. I waited 3 more years and nothing happened. It made me feel worse. Less worthy. Finally I tried to leave and he proposed. Exactly what I didn't want, a forced proposal. So I said no. But I still can't leave. I'm too far invested. <BR/><BR/>I still don't believe in marriage ultimatums, but please don't wait as long as I did. It just gets harder.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-87615726946203532142007-09-28T13:46:00.000-04:002007-09-28T13:46:00.000-04:00Oh my word 1:22! JUMP BACK! I'm thinkin' severe ...Oh my word 1:22! JUMP BACK! I'm thinkin' severe anger problems. Mmmmm hmmmmmm!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-71147621134852960822007-09-28T13:22:00.000-04:002007-09-28T13:22:00.000-04:00To: 2106MAN what a bitch you are. Maybe he was loo...To: 2106<BR/>MAN what a bitch you are. Maybe he was looking for some affection or maybe he wanted to have sex with you. Is that SOOO bad.. I think he realized u were still up bitch.. No other word to say but u are a miserable spoiled BITCHAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-90525380996768835152007-09-28T11:43:00.000-04:002007-09-28T11:43:00.000-04:002101I to have been with my bf for 4 years and we l...2101<BR/><BR/>I to have been with my bf for 4 years and we live together as well. I felt like I was going a little crazy always having marriage on the mind and anytime he didn't show me the exact right amount of attention, I immediately thought that he must not like me. <BR/><BR/>So instead of continuing to go crazy, I sat him down and talked to him. I didn't yell, but I did get emotional. I simply explained to him that regardless of what I know and feel in my heart, that after a while a girl starts to feel like, "What the hell is wrong with ME?" I explained to him that I was happy being with him and living with him and that I was fine waiting to get married - but that I would appreciate it if it was sooner rather than later. <BR/><BR/>And then I asked him to be completely honest. Was he not ready to get married because of his feelings for me, or some other reason. Be prepared to hear the truth, if he decides to be honest. I think it's totally normal to be a little scared of marriage, especially if you've never been down that road, but it's important to figure out the base of that fear and if it's something that can be calmed, then work on it.<BR/><BR/>I really hope everything works out for you and I hope that you can have a chat with him about what you are both feeling. I never think it's okay to give an ulitimatum in any way. If you feel yourself wanting to do that - just leave. He will resent you for making him choose. <BR/><BR/>Don't you want a guy that wants to propose on his own accordance and not because he was threatened into it?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com