tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post3894436266009360548..comments2023-08-25T09:21:25.015-04:00Comments on True Wife Confessions: True Wife Confessions 241 - Today's SpecialDawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12920042208198309201noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-78714548972100306412008-03-20T17:16:00.000-04:002008-03-20T17:16:00.000-04:002408 - I can totally understand what you are going...2408 - I can totally understand what you are going through. I feel like your living my life! I have been married for 8 months and am already trying to decide if I can stay and asking myself what I was thinking. I am so sorry that you are going through this as well!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-21711395337474107252008-03-18T23:56:00.000-04:002008-03-18T23:56:00.000-04:00hmm, 2407, I would suggest a therapist specializi...hmm, 2407, I would suggest a therapist specializing in addictive behavior or maybe a book on the subject, have you looked into that, or websites on this?fragrance loverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01422869815810741065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-11291758752737144062008-03-18T12:57:00.000-04:002008-03-18T12:57:00.000-04:00I'm 2407, I am married. My marriage is wonderful. ...I'm 2407, I am married. <BR/>My marriage is wonderful. I actually think my sexual appetite is the problem. I don't think it could ever be filled. Even if I did have an affair.<BR/><BR/>That's the part that freaks me out. That's the part (I think) keeps me fatter than I'd like.<BR/><BR/>I've got vibrators, toys, reading materials. I don't lack for orgasms, for sure. <BR/><BR/>I fear sex is filling in for another need. A need that can't be filled with sex. Only I don't really understand what it is that's driving me that way and so I can't seem to fix it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-68800756269682990232008-03-18T01:38:00.000-04:002008-03-18T01:38:00.000-04:0010:22, thank you so much for your kind words and v...10:22, thank you so much for your kind words and validation. It has only been a few weeks that I have cut off contact, and I actually almost went mad from the mental anguish it caused, and had to seek out professional help. This is not the first time I have had to cut of contact with her. She is no angel either, she is also an abusive personality, and was rather abusive towards me from when I was about 16 and older. I moved out at 18, but she has done some REAL heinous things to me.<BR/><BR/>SO bad infact, that it has kept me from having a family of my own, but hey, my husband and I decided to work out the shit from our past and start a family. I do know that I will NOT hurt my kids or spouse in this way. But you know, this kind of shit does leave scars, right, ladies?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-52674117811090716402008-03-17T22:22:00.000-04:002008-03-17T22:22:00.000-04:002:24,So sad, so tragic. I hope that, even if it's...2:24,<BR/><BR/>So sad, so tragic. I hope that, even if it's once a year, you let your mother know that you love her. You obviously do. You sound like made it through a very rocky relationship with her and still have compassion.<BR/><BR/>I think you rock.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-31269450925232640062008-03-17T14:24:00.000-04:002008-03-17T14:24:00.000-04:00To 2303, I swear that my own mother could have wri...To 2303, I swear that my own mother could have written this one. She is a stepmother (her third marriage, her first marriage, to my dad was 5 years, her second was 12 or 17 years, and this one, they have been together for 15 years and married for 7 or 8, and she has helped raise his four kids, a full time mom to three out of four of them.) He is a complete asshole. Verbally abusive and a pompous self-absorbed jerk who puts her down whenever he can while she caters to his every whim, and he as USED HER UP. She wanted this lifestyle. She helped him bring his business to a whole new level, and she signed a PRE-NUP for this blowhard, and he constantly tells her how fat and lazy she is (SHE RAISED his kids, fought cancer TWICE, and worked in the office with him, kept up a home, and helped three of the kids get into and attend university!) AND he calls HER lazy?? He had the nerve to even call me and tell me that I was not as successful as I should be.<BR/><BR/>WTF is it with some people?<BR/><BR/>Your post broke my heart, and it makes me think of my mom. I had to cut of contact with her because he makes her be horrible to me, and I cannot take anymore of the bullshit from this kind of family. I hope you can get out of this situation, if it is indeed using you up.<BR/><BR/>If you get away, you may be able to fill yourself up again. I honestly hope my mother does the same. She did leave him once before, but she goes back to the life with the house on the country club golf course. Some things have too high of a price, I think.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-8167304945032340892008-03-16T20:12:00.000-04:002008-03-16T20:12:00.000-04:002405 - I feel your words and the sadness that has ...2405 - I feel your words and the sadness that has now transitioned to bitterness. He’s made a mockery out of you and the relationship – realize this and do not let him continue to take that from you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-69154308645061685392008-03-16T12:27:00.000-04:002008-03-16T12:27:00.000-04:00I agree, Omnia, live is too short to live in a ver...I agree, Omnia, live is too short to live in a very unsatisfying relationship. If this is a boyfriend and not a husband, then it is always best to move on (if therapy doesn't help and there are no kids involved.)<BR/><BR/>Sexual incompatibility sucks, the one who is wanted more always loses.fragrance loverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01422869815810741065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-71743512038159943702008-03-16T09:59:00.000-04:002008-03-16T09:59:00.000-04:009:48 - The bottom line is this, if you aren't happ...9:48 - <BR/><BR/>The bottom line is this, if you aren't happy, you may as well get out of the situation. We give this advice because we've been there, and we know from experience that you're probably better off alone than with someone who treats you so badly.<BR/><BR/>It's wise advice. It's up to you whether or not you take it.<BR/><BR/>Enjoy.omnia_vincit_amorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17027778928923110846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-12782664313733529602008-03-16T09:56:00.000-04:002008-03-16T09:56:00.000-04:002403:Your post made me cry. Now with the tears dr...2403:<BR/><BR/>Your post made me cry. Now with the tears dried and my thinking-cap on, I think you can still salvage what you'd like to salvage in your life. You are still the owner of your own soul, and you are still responsible for your own happiness. Think about couples therapy-- anything that will get the communication going between yourself and your husband, as it seems like that has been lacking and causing pain. You can leave if you want to, it would simply be a long-term plan. There are always other options. Work on finding yourself first, though-- and work at making your husband work more at the relationship. **hugs** I wish you all the best.<BR/><BR/>2407: Buy a vibrator. Or two. However many you need to feel satisfied. Take care of yourself.<BR/><BR/>And if your boyfriend is not compatible with you sexually, move on. <BR/><BR/>Weight or no weight, you need to come to terms with who you really are inside. If you have an insatiable libido like I do, then buy some toys and be ready to satisfy yourself when even your kinkiest, lustiest partner can't keep up. Take care of yourself. The therapist suggestion wasn't a bad idea either. You need to find out who you are, for real, before you can hitch yourself to someone else. Once you know your limits sexually and can take care of some of them yourself, then you can be confident that you won't cheat.<BR/><BR/>An perhaps the "fear of cheating" symbolizes something that you truly aren't getting in your relationship. Take full, rational stock of what you're getting and what you aren't getting from this man, and decide whether you honestly want to continue being with him or not. <BR/><BR/>And talk to him about what you're going through, sexually. Leave the cheating out of your discussion, but talk about wanting to experiment more or just have more sex, and see what he says.<BR/><BR/>Best of luck with everything!omnia_vincit_amorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17027778928923110846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-24817500902554105992008-03-16T00:21:00.000-04:002008-03-16T00:21:00.000-04:00#2407I'm slowly losing weight. It's not easy. He ...#2407<BR/><BR/>I'm slowly losing weight. It's not easy. He says I look great, but he's still content going weeks without sex. He knows I'm not. It's been a couple weeks now, and I've now put myself in the situation where I can easily find satisfaction with someone else... I haven't yet. I don't want to... but I do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-22341037965334227192008-03-15T19:51:00.000-04:002008-03-15T19:51:00.000-04:002403: you have broken my heart. too many times I h...2403: you have broken my heart. too many times I have put my all into people who I thought I wanted so badly, and only now I'm realizing that for it to be what I really want, they have to do the same for me. All the best. xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-48221199070894517362008-03-14T09:48:00.000-04:002008-03-14T09:48:00.000-04:00"If you don't like this guy, why don't you break u..."If you don't like this guy, why don't you break up with him?"....<BR/><BR/>All humans are multilayered and you may like a layer and dislike another layer, it is not wise to advise someone to break up without knowing any details.AYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00862904725759369149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-73465540470975969122008-03-14T08:05:00.000-04:002008-03-14T08:05:00.000-04:00aww, 9:26, have you thought about talking to eithe...aww, 9:26, have you thought about talking to either a trusted friend, a therapist or even your husband?<BR/><BR/>I honestly think that if you really wanted to cheat, you would regardless of an extra 30 pounds, so if you are not cheating now, maybe you would not if you got your body back.<BR/><BR/>I think many people use weight as a protective wall, I know I have a couple of times in my life. It was just easier.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-16137419701405274182008-03-14T00:03:00.000-04:002008-03-14T00:03:00.000-04:00Dear 2406If you don't like this guy, why don't you...Dear 2406<BR/><BR/>If you don't like this guy, why don't you break up with him? You haven't mentioned any redeeming qualities or any ties that keep you in the relationship. Free yourself and enjoy your life. It's too short to be with someone you don't even like.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-2028814956461302452008-03-13T21:26:00.000-04:002008-03-13T21:26:00.000-04:002407:I have the same problem. I am a very attract...2407:<BR/><BR/>I have the same problem. I am a very attractive woman with such low self-esteem that I've gained 30 pounds. Gross. But I'm so afraid if I lose the weight, which is easy for me, I'll cheat on my husband. I love my husband so much that I'm afraid to take it off. I feel like such a weak asshole. I miss my body so much. I miss the clothes, I miss how much he loved my body. <BR/><BR/>Thank God for anon postings. I'm too ashamed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-18914863093993575692008-03-13T13:42:00.000-04:002008-03-13T13:42:00.000-04:00#2401 - I think we may be married to the same man!...#2401 - I think we may be married to the same man!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-58954427906360007142008-03-12T23:21:00.000-04:002008-03-12T23:21:00.000-04:00It was so funny and true...I have seen all those i...It was so funny and true...I have seen all those in my ex...:)AYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00862904725759369149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-67818445709481832682008-03-12T20:30:00.000-04:002008-03-12T20:30:00.000-04:002406: Oh, no - sounds like you got stuck with my e...2406: Oh, no - sounds like you got stuck with my ex-boyfriend! My heart goes out to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com