tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post2534712162477873427..comments2023-08-25T09:21:25.015-04:00Comments on True Wife Confessions: True WIfe Confessions 159 AlfaDawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12920042208198309201noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-89836277051956319552007-02-21T23:59:00.000-05:002007-02-21T23:59:00.000-05:00Wow. I can't make these complaints go away by rea...Wow. I can't make these complaints go away by reading these...nor can I get a rude man to change, but MY man changed. For the better. Tell him what you need...with no way out. An ultimatum? Yes. Do this or go. I need love just like you do.Marlanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05601744069657787211noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-81444036522131298942007-02-19T19:57:00.000-05:002007-02-19T19:57:00.000-05:004:49, 1587 here. Trust me, I realize he probably d...4:49, 1587 here. Trust me, I realize he probably does it just to irritate his wife. Which is why, as I said, I never let him get past hello. And it's a bit insulting that he thinks I would.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-2060855416779642532007-02-19T14:12:00.000-05:002007-02-19T14:12:00.000-05:00hah. 9:30, i'm with you. whenever i start feeling ...hah. 9:30, i'm with you. whenever i start feeling lonely or consider getting back into a relationship, i come here and realize why i left in the first place.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-48395581235597657362007-02-18T21:30:00.000-05:002007-02-18T21:30:00.000-05:00I frequent this site only so that I can feel bette...I frequent this site only so that I can feel better about being alone. Am I alone in this too?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-41115944290730480832007-02-18T19:32:00.000-05:002007-02-18T19:32:00.000-05:001581 - I really hope you listen to the comments by...1581 - I really hope you listen to the comments by everyone here. I was 13 when my parents spilt up - I'm almost 32 now, and I'm STILL affected by it. Any of my friends whose parents split when they were too young to understand NEVER had to deal with the same things the older kids do. Divorce sucks for the kids no matter what, but it REALLY sucks when they're old enough to know that their world is being completely torn apart, and they can't do a damn thing to stop it. Waiting till your daughter is 10 is NOT a good plan. It'll be worse for her. MUCH MUCH worse than it would be if you got out now.<BR/><BR/>1589 - you said exactly what I said after meds - that meds have allowed me to be the person I always knew I was & wanted to be. I hope you are able to work something out re: payment for your pills. Going back to the way life was prior to the meds is a nightmare I never want to face again, and hopefully you won't have to either. Good luck to you!jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03644929017494459806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-73692853239362927582007-02-17T17:31:00.000-05:002007-02-17T17:31:00.000-05:001584 -- what bugs me is, he asks me about somethin...1584 -- what bugs me is, he asks me about something, acts like he wants my input, and then when I give it, tells me I'm wrong. EVERY SINGLE FREAKING TIME. "Do you think we should go to this store?" "Yes." "But this other store has this other thing. We can't get this other thing at the first store." God DAMN, it drives me out of my mind. <BR/><BR/>I'm going to invent a nozzle that sprays plastic that hardens instantly. You can spray it at your husband's face just before you start talking, and I can spray it at my husband's face just after I finish.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-86119246839253929742007-02-17T16:49:00.000-05:002007-02-17T16:49:00.000-05:001587-if he'd ended up with you, he would be doing ...1587-if he'd ended up with you, he would be doing the same thing. Calling some other woman "just to say hi." That's how guys like him are-can't handle the reality of a relationship and so are hung up on the ones that "got away." I should know, I married a guy just like that. For a long time I was the one he called to say hi while he was engaged to someone else. Should have been a clue to me, but I just thought I was that unforgettable. Yeah, not so much. So don't read so much into it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-59842438960694573852007-02-17T11:43:00.000-05:002007-02-17T11:43:00.000-05:001581- Go now and do not look back. A baby has no c...1581- Go now and do not look back. A baby has no comprehension of divorce. A ten year old will suffer through it. Don't be ridiculous. I know it's going to be hard to have a baby all on your own, but it will be harder to care for a baby AND an alcoholic husband. You can do this, get out now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-55097364236495365752007-02-17T08:36:00.000-05:002007-02-17T08:36:00.000-05:00To 1585: my ex did this to me, too. He read my l...To 1585: my ex did this to me, too. He read my love letters to a group of his friends in the pub, and when i walked in, they all burst out laughing at me. I later found out the reason why.<BR/>Im sorry this happened to you... it sucks. I know how you feel.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-18287137171736875192007-02-17T07:50:00.000-05:002007-02-17T07:50:00.000-05:001581, I got divorced when my son was 10 and my dau...1581, I got divorced when my son was 10 and my daughter 7. It tore him apart - she was much better able to handle it. Frankly, the younger they are the easier it is for THEM but the harder it will be for YOU. I can't imagine an alcoholic father is much help to you with the baby, so do something smart and get out now. Do not allow your child to be victim to alcoholism. It's the greatest gift you will ever give him or her, and it costs you nothing. You will benefit as well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-40766878557218075242007-02-16T22:30:00.000-05:002007-02-16T22:30:00.000-05:001581- I agree with everyone else, if you leave now...1581- I agree with everyone else, if you leave now your child will never have to go through leaving her father. <BR/><BR/>1584- Oh man, I can't stand being cut off when I'm talking either! I could poke my husband's eye out when he does that!!<BR/><BR/>1585- He never cared about the letter and he is never going to wonder what happened to it. I mean really... it's been two years.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-25623751439613055542007-02-16T17:46:00.000-05:002007-02-16T17:46:00.000-05:001581: My parents divorced when I was 9. My young...1581: My parents divorced when I was 9. My youngest sibling was 3. I'm the one who took it hardest. I still struggle with intimacy issues. My sibling seems and claims to be completely unaffected by my parents divorce. There's a lot to be said for not knowing what you're losing. If you're going to do it anyway, do it now. It's not fair to you or your daughter to wait, and he doesn't deserve ten more years.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-51942611203483550882007-02-16T17:07:00.000-05:002007-02-16T17:07:00.000-05:001581: 10 is a horrible age for a child to go thro...1581: 10 is a horrible age for a child to go through a divorce. I know a few people that had it happen then and they are totally screwed up. She'd be way more able to handle it now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-87766680478281400832007-02-16T16:47:00.000-05:002007-02-16T16:47:00.000-05:00#1585 - I was involved with someone as heartless a...#1585 - I was involved with someone as heartless as that at one time. Almost married him. What an idiot.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-48621591567758176772007-02-16T15:11:00.000-05:002007-02-16T15:11:00.000-05:001581 - my parents split when I was 6. I don't thi...1581 - my parents split when I was 6. I don't think it bothered me one way or the other. My best friend's parents split when she was 13 - she went into a deep depression. The only life she ever knew was crumbling. I agree that younger children take it better. How happy are the next 10 years of your child's life going to be if your husband is a drunk and you are miserable??? Happy children come from happy parents.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-63307072091654960702007-02-16T14:42:00.000-05:002007-02-16T14:42:00.000-05:00#1585, He'll never notice. It didn't mean anythin...#1585, He'll never notice. It didn't mean anything to him, that's why he showed it around. He's forgotten about it already. If he DOES remember, it'll be because he wants to share it with his buddies again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-24956229382227406452007-02-16T14:40:00.000-05:002007-02-16T14:40:00.000-05:00@1581 & 1590LEAVE. LEAVE. LEAVE.NOW. NOW. NOW.yo...@1581 & 1590<BR/><BR/>LEAVE. LEAVE. LEAVE.<BR/><BR/>NOW. NOW. NOW.<BR/><BR/>your children need you to do this. it's not about you anymore.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-8137161991137335662007-02-16T13:06:00.000-05:002007-02-16T13:06:00.000-05:001581: I left my husband when my daughter was 10 ye...1581: I left my husband when my daughter was 10 years old, and wish, wish, wish I'd done it earlier. The younger the child, the easier it is. Don't wait any longer than you have to. Waiting is NOT doing your child any favors.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-62665078189949527152007-02-16T11:06:00.000-05:002007-02-16T11:06:00.000-05:001581 - With tears in my eyes, I impolore you to LE...1581 - With tears in my eyes, I impolore you to LEAVE NOW. Do NOT wait ten years, do not. It's not worth it, seriously. If you know now, do it. Find a way...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-16932929296373995812007-02-16T10:26:00.000-05:002007-02-16T10:26:00.000-05:00A big ditto to anon 9:40. You are kidding yourself...A big ditto to anon 9:40. You are kidding yourself if you think that's a good plan. Please leave now and spare your child the pain of growing up with an alcoholic father. A baby will handle the divorce much better than a 10 year old. It will be hard on you if you leave now, but it won't be any easier to leave in 10 years (that may even turn into 20; ask my mom).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-43462416441546282652007-02-16T09:40:00.000-05:002007-02-16T09:40:00.000-05:00To 1581--- LEAVE NOW... are you kidding me you are...To 1581--- LEAVE NOW... are you kidding me you are going to raise your child until she is 10 years old with an alcoholic... what is wrong with people.. you have a baby and u want to stay in that environment.. i just dont get it.. to a girl who knows who lived in a house with a drunken idiot.. i wish my mother was strong enough to leave earlier... You daughter will never understand why u let her lived with an alcoholic for 10 YEARS.. sorry but sounds like a cop out.. if you really wanted to leave you would just LEAVE.. your gonna waste the next 10 years of your life with an idiot drunk.. you ever hear this saying.. ITS BETTER TO COME FROM A BROKEN HOME THEN TO LIVE IN ONE... really get with it girl!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-65386853386839847092007-02-16T09:07:00.000-05:002007-02-16T09:07:00.000-05:001581: Me too.1581: Me too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com