tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post2018190989344810748..comments2023-08-25T09:21:25.015-04:00Comments on True Wife Confessions: True Wife Confessions 205 Sky rockets in flightDawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12920042208198309201noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-76200497180943437542007-09-12T10:43:00.000-04:002007-09-12T10:43:00.000-04:002046: Wow, were you married to my ex? That is exa...2046: Wow, were you married to my ex? That is exactly how he was, to a tee.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-52293924540968495122007-09-12T07:42:00.000-04:002007-09-12T07:42:00.000-04:00#2044 - I completely get what you are talking abou...#2044 - I completely get what you are talking about. My life pretty much mirrors this. Rightnow I am in the spot where I have divorced my husband but not yet married the man I cheated on him with...<BR/>sometimes i am scared of myself..i dont want this to happen again..i want to be happy! i hope this works out! TW!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-26287788362682661812007-09-07T11:13:00.000-04:002007-09-07T11:13:00.000-04:00Layers, you're assuming a lot. In her comments she...Layers, you're assuming a lot. In her comments she has listed good and bad things about her marriage, which is why I asked her does the good outweigh the bad. Until you know that, you can't just tell her to leave. As for not doing what she wants in bed, you don't even know what that is and you're assuming he's being unreasonable. What if she wants to bring in his brother and a one-legged midget? I'm exaggerating, but I don't see how you can just advise her to leave with so little information - though, on this site, that's often seen as the answer to every problem.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-8395010692566453502007-09-06T22:46:00.000-04:002007-09-06T22:46:00.000-04:001.45, you should beat it, if someone is not consid...1.45, you should beat it, if someone is not considerate enough to even do what you want in bed, the next man will. Love is around us everywhere, we just have to be open to it. There is no need for you to carry both of your lives on your shoulders alone. There is no one and only...please love yourself more than everyone else and you will thrive!Layers of Everythinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11898883853751177188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-17074301805285885912007-09-06T18:19:00.000-04:002007-09-06T18:19:00.000-04:002:15, so does the good far outweigh the bad?2:15, so does the good far outweigh the bad?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-35494892234145548292007-09-06T14:29:00.000-04:002007-09-06T14:29:00.000-04:002042 - if your true love never came back, it wasn'...2042 - if your true love never came back, it wasn't true love.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-31156651306012996882007-09-06T14:15:00.000-04:002007-09-06T14:15:00.000-04:00He's funny and smart and he actually works really ...He's funny and smart and he actually works really hard at his job... He's a good dad when he's not drinking... He's my first and only love... He knows a lot and has a lot of common sense...He's handsome...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-59117773154786407742007-09-06T12:26:00.000-04:002007-09-06T12:26:00.000-04:00so 9:11, considering your laundry list of complain...so 9:11, considering your laundry list of complaints, what is it exactly you love about this man?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-84378396917023642872007-09-06T09:11:00.000-04:002007-09-06T09:11:00.000-04:00This is 1:45. I have never cheated on "him", neve...This is 1:45. I have never cheated on "him", never even considered it. Besides my daughter, I love him more than anyone, and I am committed to him. And we aren't married, just living together for 3 years. I do everything he asks, everything I have to do, and more, and I am usually upbeat, cheerful, and act happy as hell. I've tried to talk to him, but he always says he doesn't want to talk about it. So I've stopped talking. I'll never cheat on him, or leave him, but sometimes I need to bitch about it to someone else. That's all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-62717786458972695592007-09-06T06:35:00.000-04:002007-09-06T06:35:00.000-04:00PS - some of these confessions are way too long. ...PS - some of these confessions are way too long. Can't even read them.Spread compassion, save the worldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16803631306631904247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-27740781240906429132007-09-06T06:33:00.000-04:002007-09-06T06:33:00.000-04:00#2048"All" men don't lie. Just the men you're att...#2048<BR/><BR/>"All" men don't lie. Just the men you're attracted to.Spread compassion, save the worldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16803631306631904247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-57484476932229380002007-09-05T18:15:00.000-04:002007-09-05T18:15:00.000-04:00Who are you?Who are you?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-26576217175785329222007-09-05T15:07:00.000-04:002007-09-05T15:07:00.000-04:001:45, i've heard that and worse from many women. b...1:45, i've heard that and worse from many women. but nothing i've ever heard justifies cheating, especially since your getting some on the side does nothing to fix the problems you're having and actually prolongs them since in your state of bliss you'll continue to put up with it.<BR/><BR/>i don't pretend to know what keeps people trapped in bad situations kids, money, self-esteem, whatever. but him not fulfilling his promises doesn't excuse you from yours. he might be OK being a shell of a man and not handling his responsibilities, but you don't have to break the commitment you made with yourself to be a decent woman.<BR/><BR/>i know male friends who haven't had sex in over a year. i tell them the same thing. until the day you decide to leave, you honor your commitments. emphasis on honor.<BR/><BR/>either way, i'm sure you're just trying to make the best of a bad situation and i wish you well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-20093513534491813952007-09-05T13:45:00.000-04:002007-09-05T13:45:00.000-04:00regarding 1:17 & 1:18, I work full-time doing manu...regarding 1:17 & 1:18, I work full-time doing manual labor (scrubbing toilets and mopping floors all day until my feet ache), go to school part-time, come home and take care of our 14-month old, cook dinner EVERY night (and I'm a great cook), keep an immaculate house, maintain nice flower beds and herbs, do all the shopping/dr.appts/etc., run his bathwater at night and lay out his pajamas/towel/etc., service him whenever he wants (without him having to ask, baby him when he's not feeling well, mow the yard when he doesn't feel up to it.....he works full-time, but that's it. He drinks in the backyard and I have to pick up the fucking liquor bottles and beer cans. Once or twice a month he MIGHT mow the yard, but he does a shitty job half the time. He never fixes anything that is broken..I have to do it or patch it up. He never offers to do anything I want in bed, doesn't even act like he gives a shit. I'll tell you one thing, being "the better person", "not letting him bring out the worst in you", that shit is for the birds. I am lonely, depressed, tired, aggravated, hurt, angry, humiliated, fooled....I didn't sign up for this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-3923380924202935432007-09-05T13:18:00.000-04:002007-09-05T13:18:00.000-04:00by the way, the same goes for men. if she isn't co...by the way, the same goes for men. if she isn't cooking, giving you sex or whatever, you still should change her oil, take her out, and do whatever husbands do. and for the same reasons.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-36411291467831058232007-09-05T13:17:00.000-04:002007-09-05T13:17:00.000-04:0010:07...your cheating makes you every bit as bad a...10:07...your cheating makes you every bit as bad as the jerk you're married to. go ahead and leave. but know, whatever you may think, you also contributed to the end of this relationship.<BR/><BR/>i once heard that no matter what one's spouse does, one's job is to continue being the best partner they can be. if he doesn't mow the lawn, help around the house, etc. you should still cook dinner and whatever else you do as a partner or wife. this will result in one of two outcomes: you will inspire him to be better or you will quicker and not waste extra years with someone who isn't worth it. you will be able to leave with a clear conscience knowing you always gave your best and he/she didn't bring out the worst in you. easier said than done, of course, but it's the way it should be.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-22020983636290079982007-09-05T10:07:00.000-04:002007-09-05T10:07:00.000-04:002044- I am having an affair also and he tries so m...2044- I am having an affair also and he tries so much to convince me that my life would be so much better with him (the other man)- your post is convincing me to leave the asshole I gave 17 years of my life to and he verbally abused me and was completely absent from my sons life, til he got the vibe that I have one foot out the door....thanks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-803223890749367702007-09-05T09:41:00.000-04:002007-09-05T09:41:00.000-04:00if you're a woman 9:03, chances are I know a bit m...if you're a woman 9:03, chances are I know a bit more about men than you just as i'm sure you know more about women than I do. but if you don't find anything insightful in my advice, that's cool. but based on the complaints here and elsewhere clearly many women are lacking in the quality control dept. whatever they're doing isn't working and i'm just suggesting another approach.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-91471163280594883212007-09-05T09:03:00.000-04:002007-09-05T09:03:00.000-04:00And 6:35, you are the expert on this? "Exactly ho...And 6:35, you are the expert on this? "Exactly how to find a quality man?" Hmmmmmmmmm.......mmmmkay.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-62564502056029901502007-09-05T06:35:00.000-04:002007-09-05T06:35:00.000-04:00you know, i'll take the generalization of the "dra...you know, i'll take the generalization of the "drama brush," though I was being extreme and over the top just to prove a point. either way, it was a valid criticism and, admittedly, I have read many comments on this site from women with good men.<BR/><BR/>that said, in the second half of my post I explained exactly how to find a quality man. I hope the women looking for one take heed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-4781566184100147132007-09-05T02:05:00.000-04:002007-09-05T02:05:00.000-04:00I agree with 9:41.....sure have your "big ole dram...I agree with 9:41.....sure have your "big ole drama brush" working don't ya? Isn't that the pot calling the kettle black. 9:41, I find your sweeping generalization a bit a bunch of bullshit and you sound like pookie to me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-28294127164771303152007-09-05T00:08:00.000-04:002007-09-05T00:08:00.000-04:00to anon:He's not been married before, just been th...to anon:<BR/><BR/>He's not been married before, just been through this bad breakup. I would be way more concerned if he had the history of divorce.<BR/><BR/>but the word of caution is very much appreciated. I am trying to be careful.<BR/><BR/>you ladies are the best :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-19206007756680343402007-09-04T23:20:00.000-04:002007-09-04T23:20:00.000-04:002042: My advice? Don't do it. People change a l...2042: My advice? Don't do it. People change a lot in 30 years, and I suspect that what you probably feel for your long lost boyfriend is that tender, butterflies kind of feeling that I think a lot of us feel for our first loves. That doesn't make it real, that doesn't make it lasting. I still feel those butterflies for my first love, but what I have with my husband is real and true and so much better than warm fuzzy memories of someone I haven't seen in more than a decade. I was just a kid when I was with my first love - I was 16, he was 19. I do think fondly of him, but I also know that it was not real, and that memories, like wine, tend to grow better with age.<BR/><BR/>Don't do it.<BR/><BR/>But if you do, leave your husband first. To cheat on him, to have your cake and eat it too, is just selfish and hurtful. Respect him enough to leave him with his dignity intact, before you go on this wild goose chase of love that was lost when you were barely more than a child.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-83625314160708257142007-09-04T23:11:00.000-04:002007-09-04T23:11:00.000-04:009:07... Uh, no. Most of us find good honest men an...9:07... Uh, no. Most of us find good honest men and good honest women with similar frequency. Kindly refrain from painting us all with your big ol' drama brush, please.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29562711.post-69078991583829391142007-09-04T23:04:00.000-04:002007-09-04T23:04:00.000-04:002042, if you truly married a "wonderful man", don'...2042, if you truly married a "wonderful man", don't you owe him more than that? How would you feel if he did the same to you? An exciting little ego lift from the past is bliss (trust me, I know) but this sounds like magical thinking at its most damaging. <BR/><BR/>As for "The Notebook": Pfffft. I just saw "Ratatouille" -- I guess now I have to go open a restaurant with a rat.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com